Your marriage how had it fared last years? I am asking this question because there are many whose marriages crashed in the year 2016. Some, their marriages were almost on the verge of collapse even though they managed to hold on to their marriages.
However, there are couples who enjoyed their marriage to the fullness in the year 2016. I wish to point out that no matter how your marriage had fared in 2016, you can have a total marital breakthrough and turnaround this year 2017.
Because the key to enjoying a marital breakthrough and turnaround is in your hands, you are therefore the one that determinant if whether you will enjoy a marital breakthrough or not.
There was this couple whose marriage was almost on the verge of collapse toward the end of last year. However, by the grace of God, after I had some counseling sections with them, there was a total turnaround in their marriage.
Recently in the month of January 2017, I met that man and inquired about his marriage, and I was happy with his response. He told me that “this year 2017 is his year of total marital turnaround and breakthrough.”
What of your own marriage? You too can as well turn your marriage around. In other words, you can as well have a marital turnaround and breakthrough. All is required of you is to get to know what to do and what not to do in your marriage.
Secondly, you must be willing and ready to pay the necessary prize to achieve your desire. The prizes are simple and not grievous. The first of what you need to do is to focus your attention on how to get your spouse to be happy and fulfilled in your marriage.
By your commitment to your spouse and marriage, if you will succeed to make your spouse be happy and fulfilled in your marriage, you will observe that you will as well be happy and fulfilled in your marriage.
This is so because the reasons why some marriages don’t succeed is because some couples focus their attention on what will make them happy and fulfilled not minding whether their spouses are happy and fulfilled or not.
The point is that the level of happiness and fulfillment you enjoy in your marriage is determined by the level of happiness and fulfillment you help your spouse to enjoy.
However, to have a turnaround and a marital breakthrough this year 2017 will be determined by how you handle these three pillars of marriage. The pillars are money, $ex, and communications.
Many crises in marriage are the result of poor handling of finance. If you fail to manage family finance very well, your other aspect of marriage will be drastically affected.
The best way to handle family finance is to, first, follow God’s principles of marriage. The principle is “to recognize and play your role in your marriage”. The first principle says that the man is the head of the family.
As a man, you must adequately play that role by taking good care of your family by providing for their needs. The moment you fail to play that role, there will surely be crises in your home.
In the same vein, as a woman, you are inviting real trouble in your home for you to challenge the headship of your husband at home. Rather, all you need do is to compliment your husband’s effort and things will work fine.
Secondly, coming to the issue of $ex in marriage, poor management of $ex related matters is crashing many marriages as days go by. So, if you wish to see the year 2017 as a year of total marital breakthrough and turnaround, you must handle the issue of $ex in your marriage very well.
In other words, $exual maladjustment is responsible for the crash of many marriages compared to harmony in $exual matters.
Quite often, men are responsible for $exual maladjustment in marriage. Yes, men because some are so selfish when it come to $exual matters. They are selfish in the sense that they seek to be satisfied $exually without bothering if their wives were satisfied or not.
To this end, I wish to ask you as a man, when last did you bring your wife to come i.e. to have an orgasm during the $exual relationship? The point is that some women submit to their husband for $ex as a show of responsibility not that they ever enjoyed $ex themselves.
As a Man, one secret I wish to drop for you is that you should avoid treating your wife as a $ex symbol that is out to satisfy your $exual desire. Rather, ensure that she is satisfied as well by bringing her to have an orgasm.
I bet you, if you will succeed to be causing your wife to have an orgasm during each $exual relationship, I assure you that you will never persuade her again to have $ex with you but will always be ready for you as she knows that she will enjoy it as well.
Moreover, as a woman, if you will at all time try to satisfy your husband $exually, you will see that he will live long for you because a lot of tension and stress which are silent killers are removed after $exual relationship.
The next pillar of marriage is good communications which result in intimacy. One of the greatest things women desire in their marriage that makes them happy is intimacy. Some men are equally guilty of denying this intimacy to their wives by claiming that they don’t have time.
Some fail to understand that some women value your intimacy with them more than the big cars you may have bought and kept for them. Some women, even though their husbands bought big cars for them, they are still not happy in their marriage because they are lonely in their marriage.
If couples will take care of these three pillars of marriage, 2017 and beyond will surely be their year of total marital breakthrough and turnaround. Shalom!
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