The world over, some couples are enjoying their marriages to fullness; other couples are enduring their marriages while other couples’ marriages are in crises and on the verge of failure.
The state of the marriage of couples is determined by the working knowledge of the principles that make for a successful marriage that couples have, accept and apply in their marriage relationship.
Yes, this is a known fact; the world is ruled by secrets as those who know and apply those secrets in their various life endeavors rule their world in such areas.
So if you lack the knowledge of principle that makes for a successful marriage, your marriage will surely fail
In other words, some men and women are highly successful in their various life endeavors but awful failures in their marriage.
That is why the royal marriage of Prince Charles and Princess Diana, as well as the marriage of Billionaires like John Caudwell, are now history.
Presidents of nations like late Mandela of South Africa, president of Russian Federation Mr. Putin as well as the great man of GOD pastor Chris all suffered failed marriages.
The above goes to show that no matter who you are if you toil with certain marriage principles, your marriage will crash as well while if you diligently implement these basic marriage principles in your marriage, you will surely enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
The first of such basic marriage principle is leaving and cleaving. We can see this principle in what GOD said in Genesis 2: 24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
As a man, once you toil with the above principle, it takes the grace of God for you not to kiss goodbye to your marriage. In other words, you must necessarily leave your father and mother if you expect your marriage to be a success.
After leaving your father and mother, besides, you must cleave to your wife as to become one flesh. You can never be one flesh unless you are cleaved to each other.
Another Bible translation (Bible in Basic English) puts it this way “For this cause will a man go away from his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will be one flesh”.
In other words, to cleave means to be joined together inseparably as such becoming one flesh. Are you truly joined together with your wife or can you say truly that you are one flesh with your wife?
The second principle is the principle of love and submission. As a man, you must necessarily show unconditional love for your wife as we can see that from the Bible in Ephesians 5:25 which says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”.
See also Ephesians 5:28 said, “So husbands ought to love their wives as their bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
Again Ephesians 5:33 says “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.
As a woman, you must naturally without compulsion be submissive to your husband if you expect your marriage to succeed. We can see this in Ephesians 5:22 which says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”.
Also, Colossians 3:18 says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as it is fitting in the Lord”. In other words, Love and submission are two principles that work together.
As a man, your wife deserves your unconditional love if you expect her to be submissive to you and your husband deserves your submission if you expect him to love you unconditionally.
The third is the principle of communication and intimacy in marriage: Remember what Genesis 2: 24 said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Couples must necessarily communicate very well before they can be intimate with each other before they can ever become one flesh.
In other words, they must create and spend quality time with each other if they are to become intimate with each other.
I have never seen a couple who are intimate with each other that goes for divorce. It is an intimacy that fuels the love for each other and without intimacy; love will dry up or die.
Show me couples that communicate very well with each other, couples that create quality time to be with each other as to be intimate with each other, and I will show you a successful married couple.
Lastly the principle of “give and take”: if couples will realize that what is obtained in their marriage is the result of their inputs in that marriage. That is why I said that your marriage is as good or bad as you make it
In our society today, there are men whose time of coming home is after midnight. The reason is that they are afraid of the tiger woman at home. Such men will tell you that they don’t want to die before their time.
Such men prefer to come home after their wives and children have gone to bed.
Also, some wives may be playing and watching TV with their children but when they hear the sound of Daddy’s car, they will all run to their bedroom and force themselves to sleep because of the arrival of the lion.
As a couple, do you eat and play with your children? As a woman, what is forcing your husband to keep late night?
I wish to ask you since you got married to that man or woman, what are the tangible improvements in his or her life that he or she could look back and be proud that he or she married you or is he or she regretting that he or she married you?. What are you doing in your marriage to get your spouse fulfilled in life?
The problem with some marriages is that some couples entered such marriages with the mindset of what they expect to get from such marriages and not what to give out.
For that reason, they are not bothered if their spouses are happy and fulfilled in that marriage or not.
So, going by the principle of “give and take”, a couple should strive to see that their spouses are happy and fulfilled in their marriage.
In other words, whatever you are expecting from your spouse, you should be ready and willing to provide that thing for your spouse.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and ensure that you operate the above principles to make your marriage successful and exciting. Shalom