This is the continuation of the series, “Tips for Building a Strong and Healthy Foundation for an Enduring Marriage.” Hope you have read the first part of the series for a better understanding?
In part one of the series; we looked at the first two tips, so we shall continue with tips number three. Tip number three: Try to maintain your appearance or structure (shape). Do you know the reason love among couples gets soured?
The reason is that some men/women are seeing and living with a different person altogether, rather than the person they saw a few years ago and got married to.
Ladies are mostly guilty of this because before they got married, they were elegant and looked cute when they appear in skates and blouses. But what is happening now? No skate fits them because they are out of shape or shapeless as a result of being overweight.
A man recently complained openly that he is living with a stranger rather than the lady he saw four years ago, admired, and got married to. According to him, the lady he married was elegant and always looks like a sweet sixteen.
But now he is living with a shapeless woman that looks more like his mother. Ladies, you have work to do on yourself to keep yourself in shape, try not to allow yourself to get overweight, or else your husband may lose interest in you.
Tip number four is directed to both couples, that is, both couples must be willing and ready to pay the price to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage. For your marriage to thrive, you must be ready and willing to pay a price, as there is no marriage institution on earth that does not thrive by paying a price.
That is to say, either or both parties must be willing to pay a prize, and the prize may be in a form of sacrifice. Paying the prize entails doing things that help to make your spouse happy and fulfilled in that marriage relationship.
Paying the price is what is lacking in many marriages as selfishness has taken the order of the day. Living a life of sacrifice involves being ready and willing to give out to our spouse more than what we are expecting to receive from him or her.
It is disheartening that many couples are in marriage relationships by reason of what to get out of the relationship and not what to give out. What they are expecting from their spouses is far more than what they are ready and willing to offer, they are expecting much from their spouses while offering so little.
If we wish and expect to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage, then we must be ready and willing to match our expectations from our spouse with what we are ready and willing to offer.
This is a proven fact, couples who strive to make their spouses happy and fulfilled end up being happy and fulfilled themselves. So make it a point of duty and strive to make your spouse happy and fulfilled in that marriage relationship.
Moreover, couples should learn to build an unquestionable love and trust for each other: One of the reasons why marriages are crumbling and falling is the result of betrayal and counter-betrayal by couples.
As a result, couples don’t trust each other. If you wish to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage, then couples must vow not to betray their spouse and as well try to build an unquestionable trust in each other.
Finally, the way you handle conflict matters a lot. Before couples adjust adequately and harmoniously to each other, there are bound to be conflicts. Couples must learn to use these conflicts positively if they are to be adjusted adequately to each other.
It is when couples get adjusted adequately to each other that they know what to avoid that brings conflicts between them. In other words, couples must learn to manage their conflicts very well. Until I come your way again, stay focused and committed to your marriage and spouse. Shalom!.