The strength of any building is the foundation and a building with a faulty foundation and structural defect, no matter how beautiful the building may appear, it will surely collapse sooner or later.
The same is true of marriages. On earth today, there are quite a number of marriages that by merely looking at their foundation, you don’t need any prophet to tell you that their foundations are faulty.
As such, such marriage will surely fail in the near future. Such marriages, you see them blossoming today, but collapse tomorrow. Therefore, if you are married or about to get married, if you wish to have a successful marriage, and if you wish to enjoy your marriage to the fullest, then you need to build a strong foundation for your marriage.
The two partners must imbibe the following blocks used for building a strong and healthy foundation for marriages and relationships. And when you do, your marriage will be as strong as ever.
The first or the chief cornerstone upon which every marriage foundation stands is Trust. Couples need to build very strong trust for each other, and for such couples, their marriage foundations are unshakable. In our society today, what is killing many marriages is the lack of trust for one another.
Any marriage in which there is a lack of trust for each other, for such marriages, it will take the mercy and grace of GOD for it to survive. But a marriage in which couples concerned has a very strong trust for each other; such marriage will stand the taste of time.
One thing in couples, who has strong trust for each other, must endeavor to do is to ensure that they don’t betray such trust they have for each other.
Couples who have strong trust for each other get devastated if couples find out that this trust they have for their spouses has been betrayed.
The second cornerstone that every marriage needs to build a strong foundation is Love. From all indications, love, and trust go together. You love the person you trust more and the person you love, you tend to trust that person.
Any marriage foundation builds on love; such marriage will surely stand the test of time. I was reading an article on sethadamsmith.com in which Seth said something in an article. https://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/06/24-million-views-my-response-to-the-response/
Seth said something, “Real love is hard and real love is a sacrifice. But it is a sacrifice that transforms us into the fullest measure of our identity”.
One thing about real love is that it is alive and takes a time to grow. During this period of growth, it must be maintained and nurtured, or it will sour or die. I have never seen couples that have a strong love for each other rush to the law court to end their marriage.
It is when love between couples gets sour or died that other negative issues begin to follow. So for your marriage to last, for you to enjoy your marriage to the fullest, then ensure that you build the foundation of your marriage on love and ensure that this love never sours or dies.
Another thing you need to do in building a strong foundation for your marriage is to treat your husband like a king and your wife like a queen. Both of you should totally avoid comparing your husband/wife with any man or woman in society in all its ramifications. Avoid comparing your marriage or spouse with another marriage or person.
You and your spouse are unique and peculiar, so you should relate to your spouse based on whom he/she is, not on whom you wish that he or she is.
It is when we start comparing our marriages with that of other couples that we start instead of relating with our spouse on whom he or she is. It is then that we start relating to him or her as whom we think and wish he or she is. That ends up destroying the foundation of our marriage.
Finally, the marriage foundation must be void of selfishness. If you wish to have a solid foundation for your marriage, then ensure that it is not built on selfishness.
The problem with many marriages is that the foundation was built on selfishness. That is why you hear couples going for divorce do cite the reason as “irreconcilable differences”.
One of the pieces of evidence to prove that we are not selfish is a life of give and take. And also compromise in our marriage. But when you always insist on having your way on any issue, it is proof that you are selfish.
I am enjoying the best time in my marriage today because my marriage was built on the points shared above. If you will as well build your own marriage foundations on the above points, you are sure to enjoy a successful marriage.
Until I come your way again, ensure that your marriage is built on a solid foundation. Shalom!