Could you ever imagine that your own marriage could fail if you are not careful? Yes, marriages rise and fall, and there are several reasons for the fall. We shall be looking at seven of those simple reasons why some marriages fail, and to avoid your own marriage from failing.
The first of such reasons is Ignorance: The major cause of marriage failure is ignorance on the part of some couples. Some couples don’t know what to do to make their marriage work. In other words, some couples are doing what they ought not to be doing in their marriages while failing to do what they ought to do in their marriage.
For this reason, you see some men and women who are successful in their various life endeavors whose marriages are woeful failures. For instance, some years ago, the royal marriage of Prince Charles and Princess Dina failed; we saw even the marriage of the Russian President fail. What of the marriage of a multi-millionaire John Caldwell. Even some notable men of God like Pastor Chris and much more.
That is to say, no matter your social status or who you are, if you fail to do what you ought to do in your marriage, or if you are doing what you ought not to do in your marriage. It could eventually cause your marriage to fail. The following are the simple reasons why some marriages failed, and we should be careful to avoid our own marriages failing.
A Marriage built on a faulty foundation: There are marriages, by merely looking at the foundation; you don’t need a prophet to tell you that it will surely fail. There are couples who built their marriage on a faulty foundation, no wonder their marriage eventually failed.
An example is forced or influenced marriages. There are couples, even though they know that they don’t love each other, who still went ahead and got married. The reason is that their parents or some other things influenced them to marry. When those things that influenced them to marry are no longer there, such marriages will pack up.
A Marriage where there is no love: Love is the oil that lubricates every marriage. But there are marriages, in which the love between couples got soured or dried up, grew wings, and flew away. It is the love for each other that sustains a marriage, but when such love is absent, other negative issues will surely follow which may eventually crash the marriage.
There are also marriages in which love is one-sided. That is one of the spouses doesn’t love his or her partner. In such a situation, the success of such a marriage is resting on one leg and once anything happens to that one leg, the marriage will surely fail.
Uncommitted couples: Marriages are like gardens. There are gardens you come across, and you will so much like the gardens because they are well watered, and they are always evergreen. They are well-watered and evergreen because the owners are committed to taking good care of their gardens.
However, there are some other gardens which you will come to, you will see that the gardens are in bad shape as they are overgrown with weeds. The reason is that the owners of such gardens were not committed to taking good care of them.
The same is true of marriages; couples who don’t want to see their marriages fail must be committed to each other and to their marriage. In other words, some marriages fail because couples are not committed to each other and to their marriage.
Selfish couples: One other issue that causes marriages to fail is selfishness on the part of some couples. Due to selfishness, some couples are in a marriage relationship for the reason of what he or they hoped to get out of that marriage relationship.
Such couples only seek and pursue what will only be for their personal benefits, things that will make and keep them happy. By pursuing only their welfare needs, not minding whether his or her spouse is happy and fulfilled or not as long as they get fulfilled and are happy.
In such couples, they can never compromise for the sake of the success unless the issue will be for their benefit. For the reason above, you hear such couples cite the reason for their marriage failure as a result of irreconcilable differences.
You may ask what could make a couple have irreconcilable differences if not the result of selfishness? To make your marriage succeed and not fail, you must never have differences that could ever be irreconcilable.
Betrayal of trust: Again, marriages fail as a result of the betrayal of trust for each other. For such marriages to succeed, couples must build a strong trust in each other.
But this has not normally been the case; some couples are so selfish and as well as they take their partner for granted. Such a couple can do anything to their partner with reckless abandon.
When couples are doing things with reckless abandon, they don’t bother if they betray the trust their partner has for them. Betrayal of trust can lead couples to lose the trust they have for each other.
And once couples can’t trust each other, their marriages are affected, which may cause the marriage to fail. For your marriage to succeed, you should t never do things that could cause your spouse to lose his or her trust in you.
There are two prominent areas couples must watch out for, which often cause betrayal and loss of trust. These are the issue of infidelity and the use of money. Of a truth, over 60% of couples don’t trust each other when it comes to the issue of money. That is why you hear such comments as “I love you, but I don’t trust you over the issue of the use of money”.
Men are generally guilty of causing their partners to lose trust in them about money. The reason for the above is that they often borrow money from their wives even though they know they are not going to repay them back.
Ask yourself, are there not many cases you asked your wife to lend you money, but you failed to repay back? I was once guilty of this myself, but now I make sure to refund any money I borrowed from my wife. Even after refunding the money, I could still let her know that I still need that money to do something for the family.
Manipulative couples: There are men who use intimidation to control their wives, and there are women who use unconventional means, such as charms, to control and manipulate their husbands. Frequently, some even employ a spell caster to cast a love spell on their spouse.
For the reason above, such couples when they get deliverance or get to know that their partner has been using unconventional means to control and manipulate them, they normally call such marriage a quit.
You should never employ unconventional means, nor use a love potion to control or manipulate your spouse if you don’t want your marriage to fail. Until I come your way again, don’t allow your marriage to fail.
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