Marriage as an institution is perhaps the oldest institution on earth that was instituted or designed by GOD. It is widely said that in this marriage institution, there are those outside the institution that are craving to get in while there are those that are inside but are craving to get out.
Yes, the above assertion is true when we realize that there are many single men and women whose utmost heart desires are to get married. On the other hand, there are those who rushed into marriage only to start to regret ever getting married, as some rush out soon because what they saw was not what they expected.
If you are married or intending to get married, for your marriage to work, and be a success instead of ending in a failure. That is to say, for you to enjoy your marriage to the fullest instead of enduring your marriage, then one must absolutely ready and willing to follow strictly God’s blueprints for a successful marriage.
In other words, marriages succeed or fail depends on or are determined by whether one is following God’s blueprint or not. Most of the failed marriages in our society today are caused by the inability or failure to follow God’s blueprint for a successful marriage.
We shall therefore be looking at these blueprints. First and foremost, we shall look at what God said in Genesis 2:18 where The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
From the above verse, every man should realize that if God said that it is not good for the man to be alone, it is not therefore not good to seek to be alone.
However, the main emphasis is on what God said following this argument that it is not good for a man to be alone. God took action to remedy man’s loneliness, saying “I will make a helper suitable for him”.
That is to say, in the mind of God, the essence of creating a woman is to fulfill one main purpose of being a helper and companion for man. In other words, as a woman, you must at all times see yourself as a helper and companion for your husband.
The moment any woman deviates from performing this singular role, that marriage will be heading for disaster or failure. That is one of the reasons many marriages are falling apart and some end in divorce.
On the other way round, some men are equally not following God’s blueprint for a successful marriage. This regard is in the sense that they have abandoned their responsibilities at home, thereby leaving the entire responsibility to the woman who originally was meant to be a helper.
My fellow men, please for no reason should you abandon your responsibility at home, and should see whatever your wife is doing as a helper. For instance, I remembered what happened in my own home some time ago, in which unable to pay the school fees of my children the first week after school resumed or reopened.
That day, I went and withdrew some money from the bank to give to my wife for the children’s school fees. She laughed when I gave her the money as she told me that she had paid the school fees the previous week.
Since I see it as my responsibility to pay the school fees, I still gave her the money to replace the money she used to pay for the fees. Of a truth, I assure you, if you relate very well with your wife, she will take care of most of your responsibilities willingly as she will see such actions as helping you.
However, what I am trying to point out here is that it is wrong for you to compel your helper to help you against her will, as she must do it willingly. It is equally wrong not to help your husband to take care of most of his responsibilities while you are in a position to do so.
This will lead us to God’s blueprint for a successful marriage, which we must follow if we desire to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage. This can be seen in Genesis 2:25.
The above verse said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed”.
This verse is loaded, and we shall be looking at these blueprints one by one as it was in the minds of God. We shall be looking at them in detail in part two, as we will end part one here. Shalom!
