In our society today, there are couples going through various crises in their marriages. As a result, some have the impression or misconception that their marriage was a mistake.
Some months ago, I confronted one lady whose marriage has lasted for only three years. The lady somewhere had busted in tears saying, “I didn’t know that John was like that, if I knew, I won’t have married him”.
The lady further said, “My marriage to john was a huge mistake I regretted ever marrying him” I interrupted her and said “absolutely you can’t prove to me that your marriage was a mistake”
Of a truth, that lady was mad at me for saying that because she thought that I was supporting her husband. I invited her to my office as I stood my ground that I will prove to her that her marriage was not a mistake.
Because she was curious to hear from me, she came to my office the following day. That day, I listened to the lady as she poured out her heart, why she said that her marriage was a mistake.
Gradually I trashed all the points she raised. In fact, there were some issues that she was accusing her husband of which she later saw that her actions were responsible.
Having gotten the woman, I counseled her that she should initiate $ex with her husband that night if she accepted my counseling. The reason was because the issue of $ex was one of the major issue for their marriage crises.
Do you know that her husband refused having $ex with her that night? His reason was that it was the first time her wife ever initiated $ex since they got married.
The man’s reason was that he started suspecting his wife that she may be having affairs and has been impregnated by someone, that her action was to seduce him into having $ex with her as a cover up.
The lady sent me a text very early in the morning the following day to inform me of what happened. I then called the man and requested to have audience with him.
That day, after my session with the man, I informed him that I talked with his wife the previous day and was the person who asked her to initiate $ex with him which he refused.
Since the man accepted my counseling, I asked him to buy a special present for his wife on his way home. The wife in turn, I called her and asked her to prepare a nice dish before her husband comes back.
That evening, after the man ate a special delicacy the wife prepared for him, the man gave her the packet of a costly android phone he bought for her as she was using a small nokia phone
The woman was so happy and verbally told him that she was ready for him any time he wishes to have $ex. According to the man, their $exual relationship that evening was the best ever since they got married.
According to the woman herself, she said that their $exual relationship that evening was the first time she ever moaned in $exual ecstasy, been the first time ever she had $exual orgasms.
That was how the marriage the woman regarded as a mistake was restored and the love between them started blossoming ever since.
The summary of what I did was that my counseling caused a change of attitude on the part of the woman and that of the man as I disproved to them that their marriage was not a mistake.
Once you have a misconception that your marriage was a mistake, you will never give your best to that marriage but will be looking for excuse on how to end the marriage.
However, if you have the attitude of sinking or swimming with your spouse, you will pay any prize to ensure that your marriage succeeds. I say once again, your marriage was not a mistake but you or your attitude in that marriage may be the mistake.
To this end, examine your attitudes and actions and it will prove to you that your marriage was not a mistake but you are the mistake.
Until I come your way again, please endeavor to be a blessing in your marriage and not a mistake. Shalom!.
