In part one of the series, we saw how the marriage one lady said was a mistake was turned around and love among them started blossoming proving that their marriage was not a mistake.
Maybe you are having similar misconception that your marriage was a mistake. Like I told the lady in part one, “absolutely your marriage was not a mistake but you are the mistake.
Briefly we shall be looking at some issues that some are seeing in their marriage that made the regard their marriage as a mistake. The issues mostly are man made and once corrected the so-called mistake will disappear.
For instance, I once confronted a couple having crises in their marriage. I first confronted the lady in that marriage, and she accused the husband of not taking care of her as he was taking care of his girlfriend.
I then confronted the man, and he acknowledged that he still maintain a girl as the wife refuse to satisfy him most of the time. According to the man, he regretted marrying the lady.
I immediately picked the misconception the man has. You see, the man had the misconception some other men has who got married so that they will be enjoying $ex with their wives at will.
I told the man that enjoying $exual satisfaction was a fridge benefit he has for marrying but it is selfishness on his part to expect to enjoy it on a platter of gold.
The man looked at me furiously as he asked me what I meant?. What I told the man is what I am telling all the men having similar problem.
Yes, as men we have the fringe benefit of enjoying $exual satisfaction at will but we equally owe our wives the responsibility to take good care of them and doing things that keep them happy.
In addition, we owe it as a responsibility of ensuring that our wives equally enjoy $exual satisfaction as we enjoy it. Of a truth, some men are so selfish when it comes to $exual satisfaction.
They are selfish in the sense that they are after satisfying themselves without bothering to ensure that their wives are equally satisfied $exually.
Coming back to our discourse, that man I confronted, I asked him how much he gave his girlfriend, and he said that he gave her Ni5,000(fifteen thousand Nigeria naira) yet he gave nothing to the wife.
To cut the long story short, I lectured him of the benefit of taking care of his wife unconditionally. The man accepted my counseling wholeheartedly and branched and bought chicken parts on his way home which he enjoyed with his wife.
The following morning, he gave the wife a huge amount of money for the first time to use and go for shopping. Incidentally, the lady called me to inform me of what the man did.
As usual, I advised her to reciprocate his gesture. That night, the woman prepared for him special dish which the man enjoyed. Equally, that night, the woman prepared herself for the man.
In other words, it was the wife who start romancing the man and asked him if he was not interested in having $ex. The man responded that he wants.
The lady replied that she was ready for him. According to the man, their $exual relationship that night was the best ever he enjoyed since they got married.
The man equally said that his wife mooned in $exual ecstasy as she had orgasm several times during the act. The man confessed that he never had any cause to engage in extra marital affairs as he both of them now enjoy $exual pleasure.
The lesson I wish that we learn from the story is that it takes two to tango. Couples who carry each other along never deny each other anything.
A woman who drives joy in seen that her husband is $exually satisfied unconditionally most a time enjoys her husband fully as her husband always try to do things that keeps the wife happy.
In the same way, a man who always does things that makes his wife happy never beg his wife for $ex as the wife is always ready to satisfy him at any time.
The man in our story, who earlier claimed that his marriage was a mistake, that he regret marrying his wife, confessed that his wife is having three children for him.
The man confessed that he enjoys $ex with the wife at times two times before day break. In other words, he thanks God for giving him a good wife as he regards his wife as a gift from God.
In summary, I wish to ask you, can your wife or husband look back and confess that you are a gift from God rather than confessing that marrying you was a mistake?
To this end, and on my own, I wish to say that absolutely that your marriage was not a mistake. Rather you are the mistake which you can turn that marriage around if you know, ready and willing to pay the prize to make so.
Until I come your way again, please be sure that you are not a mistake in your marriage. Rather be a blessing which your spouse will look back and confirm that you are God’s gift to him or her in your marriage. Shalom!