I have shared this incident multiple times before; I was in my wife’s office some time ago and was busy in her computer trying to fix a certain thing in her computer system for her.
I was there when one woman entered to see her. Because I was busy in the computer and was equally backing them, the woman did not see my face even though she did not know me before then.
The problem I helped to fix in my wife’s computer was connecting her to a live Zoom conference which the system analyst in her establishment had tried a number of times to do without success.
Immediately I told her that I had finished, she was so excited seeing that she was part of the conference live. As a result, of her excitement, she rose up and hugged me, giving me a peck on my chick.
It was at that point that she introduced me to the woman. The woman started telling me that I was so lucky I got married to a very good wife.
At that point, one lady entered as well and started telling my wife, saying that she was such a lucky woman to have been the woman that got married to me.
She explained to her how she was dreaming of getting married to me before I introduced my wife to her as my fiancée then.
It happened that the first woman busted in tears saying to my wife that she was lucky she got married to a good husband as herself got married to a monster.
Immediately I cashed in to that statement of that woman, telling her that I will help her pray her husband would leave her since he was a monster. However, that woman shouted “no, I don’t want to lose my husband”.
Having laid the background story of our discourse, in this segment, I wish to point out that the problem with that woman and numerous other women or couples were their possession of a wrong mindset about their spouses.
Once couples have the wrong mindset about their spouses, they will never bring out the best in them. In turn, you should be aware, it takes bringing out the best in you and that will equally draw out the best in your partner.
I schooled that woman on how to bring out the best in her. I encouraged her to do her best to serve her husband by paying the prize to keep him very happy always irrespective of what the husband does.
That woman changed from that day as she did for her husband what she never used to do for him, including asking her husband for the first time whether he was interested in having $ex that she was ready for him.
It happened, according to her husband, he said that he enjoyed that night $ex relationship more than he ever did.
After one week, of noticing so many positive changes in the woman, the husband openly confronted her telling her that she had noticed so many positive changes in her.
That woman replied by apologizing to him saying that she was sorry for not been a good wife to him before. Do you know that her husband bust in tears replying to her that he was equally sorry that he was never been a good husband to her, promising to her that he will do his best to change and become a better husband to her?
The following day, while coming home from work, her husband for the first time bought for her a brand-new Android phone telling her that he don’t like the low quality phone she was using.
It was then that she told him about me, telling him that she wants to bring me some fruits in appreciation. Incipiently, my wife was on her way home that day when she arrived with her husband, so my wife drove them to our house.
That day, that woman in the presence of her husband boldly told me saying, “I never knew that my husband was a loving and caring husband.”
That was how the marriage of that couple started blossoming and became exciting and as of today, they are still enjoying a blossoming and exciting marriage.
The lesson we should learn is that the actions of our spouse may be the result of our own actions. Some partners are so selfish that they desire the best from their partner but are not ready or willing to offer the same.
Moreover, we should know that our actions are influenced by the mindset we have built over the years about our spouse. Some partners have the wrong mindset thinking that they married the wrong man or woman.
For that reason, they failed to bring out the best in them and as said, failure to bring out the best in us can never draw out the best in our partner.
This was exactly what I explained to that couple, telling the woman that immediately she accepted to pay the prize of given her best to her husband, which equally provoked or drew out the best out of her husband.
That is to say that couples can never achieve a blossoming and exciting marriage if they are having the wrong mindset about their spouses.
Secondly, as it takes two to tango, it takes given our spouse the best that draws the best out of them. Will you take up this challenge, do your best to give your spouse your best, and you will see that the best is been drawn out of him or her? Shalom!