The world over, secrets rules the world as those who know and apply secrets in their various life endeavors rules their world in such areas.
However, ignorance equally is the bane of our society as many are failures in certain areas of their life as a result of ignorance. That calls for the reasons why some successful men and women are failures in their marriage.
In other words, there are men and women who are highly successful in their various life endeavors but awful failures in their marriage.
That is why the royal marriage of Prince Charles and then Princess Diana failed. And as well as the marriage of Billionaires like John Caudwell, is now history.
What about the marriage of the great man of GOD Pastor Chris who paid the ultimate prize of divorce from his wife pastor Anita some years ago?
The above goes to show that no matter who you are, if you toil or joke with certain marriage principles, your own marriage will crash as well.
In other words, these marriage principles, if you diligently implement them in your marriage, you will see that your marriage will be a huge success as you will enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
We shall be looking at the basic marriage principles that you should never joke with in your marriage. The first of such basic marriage principle is the principle of leaving and cleaving.
We can see this principle in what GOD said in Genesis 2: 24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife”. and they shall be one flesh”.
As a man, you must necessarily leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife if you expect your marriage to be a success. One proof that you cleave to your wife is that the two will become one flesh.
That points to the second principle, the principle of becoming one flesh. Couples can never be one flesh unless they cleave to each other.
Another bible translation (Bible in Basic English) puts it this way “For this cause will a man go away from his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will be one flesh”.
In other words, to cleave means to be joined together in an inseparable manner as such becoming one flesh. Are you truly joined together with your wife or can you say truly that you are one flesh with her?
The next principle is the principle of love and submission. As a man, you must necessarily show unconditional love to your wife. We can see that from the Bible in Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”;
Also Ephesians 5:28 says “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
See also Ephesians 5:33 which say “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.
The other part of that principle is submission. As a woman, you must necessarily submit to your husband if you want his love for you not to be hindered.
Love and submission are principle that work together. In other words, your wife deserves your unconditional love if you expect her to submit to you and your husband deserves your submission if you expect him to love you unconditionally.
Another is the principle of intimacy in marriage: Remember what Genesis 2: 24 said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Couples must be intimate with each other before they can ever become one flesh. In other words, you must create and spend quality time with each other if you are to become intimidate with each other.
I have never seen a couple who are intimate with each other that goes for divorce. It is an intimacy that fuels the love for each other and without intimacy; love will dry up or die.
Show me couples that create quality time for each other to be intimate with each other and I will show you a successful married couple.
Lastly the principle of give and take: if couples will realize that what is obtained in their marriage is the result of their inputs in that marriage.
That is to say couples must necessarily do things expected to add value or improve the life of their spouse. I want to ask, since you got married to that man or woman, what are the tangible improvements in his/her life?
What could he or she look back and be proud that he or she married you; or is he/she regretting that he/she married you? What are you doing in your marriage to get your spouse fulfilled in life?
In reality, the problem with some marriages is that some couples entered such marriages with the mindset of what they expect to get from such marriages and not what to give out.
For that reason, they are not bothered if their spouses are happy and fulfilled in that marriage or not as long as they are happy and fulfilled in that marriage…
So going by the principle of give and take, a couple should strive to see that their spouses are happy and fulfilled in their marriage. In other words, fulfilling the expectation of your spouse.
In addition, whatever you are expecting from your spouse, you should be ready and willing to provide such for your spouse. That is to say that by ensuring that your spouse is happy and fulfilled, you will end up being happy and fulfilled.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and ensure that you operate the above principles to make your marriage successful and exciting. Shalom