In this world, men rule by wisdom and secrets as those who know and apply the secrets in their various life endeavors rule their world in such areas.
However, ignorance is the bane of many as they are failures in certain areas of their life as a result of ignorance. That calls for the reasons why some successful men and women are failures in their marriage.
In other words, there are men and women who are highly successful in their various life endeavors but awful failures in their marriage. That is why the royal marriage of Prince Charles and Princess Diana years ago was a failure.
The same is the marriage of well known Billionaires like John Caudwell which is now history. Men of God are not spared as the great man of God Pastor Chris paid the ultimate prize of divorce from his wife pastor Anita.
The above goes to show that no matter who you are, if you toil with certain marriage principles, your own marriage could crash as well. However, there are certain marriage principles that if you diligently implement in your marriage, you will surely enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
To this end, we shall be looking at certain marriage principles that you should never joke with in your marriage if you expect to enjoy your marriage to the fullest.
The first of such basic marriage principle is the principle of leaving and cleaving. We can see this principle in what GOD said in Genesis 2: 24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
As a man, you must necessarily leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife if you expect your marriage to be a success. One proof that you cleave to your wife is that the two of you will become one flesh and you can never be one flesh unless you are cleaved to each other.
Another bible translation (Bible in Basic English) puts it this way “For this cause will a man go away from his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will be one flesh”.
In other words, to cleave means to be joined together in an inseparable manner, as such becoming one flesh. Are you truly joined together with your wife or can you say truly that you are one flesh with your wife?
The Bible point to the next principle in Ephesians 5:25 – 28 which talked about the principle of showing unconditional love to your wife. We can see that in verse 25, which says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”;
Verses 28 equally repeated it, “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. See also Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”.
The other side of the coin is the principle that talks about submission of wives to their husbands. We can see that in Ephesians 5:22 which says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”. Also Colossians 3:18 repeated it, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as it is fitting in the Lord”.
Love and submission are two principles that work together. In other words, your wife deserves your unconditional love if you expect her to be submissive to you and your husband deserves your submission if you expect him to love you unconditionally.
Remember what Genesis 2: 24 said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
This leads us to the next principle of intimacy in marriage. Couples must really be intimate with each other before they can ever think of becoming one flesh.
In other words, husbands and wives must consciously create and spend quality time with each other if they are to become intimate with each other.
I have never seen a couple who are intimate with each other that goes for divorce. It is an intimacy that fuels the love for each other and without intimacy; love will dry up or die or sour.
If you show me couples that create quality time for each other to be intimate with each other and I will show you couples whose marriages will be highly successful.
We also have the principle of creating a very harmonious $exual environment between couples. Couples who wish to enjoy their marriages to the fullest, they must necessarily and consciously be well adjusted $exually to each other.
A well adjusted couple $exually are couples whose $ex lives are harmonious, couples who are ready and willing to satisfy each other $exually at all times any day any time.
Lastly is the principle of give and take: Couples should realize that what is obtained in their marriage is the result of their inputs in that marriage. That is why I said that your marriage is as good or bad as you make it.
I learned something from what Pastor Chidebere Makuo of Winner’s Chapel said on January 2016 while speaking during the 3rd service of the last day of 21 days of prayer and fasting of 2016.
In his message, he made a point that is very true, he said that “couples who had been married up to 3 to 5 years, if there is nothing that improved in the life of their spouse, that they are a failure in that marriage”.
I totally agree with him, there must be something that improved in the life of our spouse after we got married to him or her. In other words, we must see marriage as a give and take if we must see that improvement in the life of our spouse.
That is to say since you got married to that man or woman, what are the tangible improvements in his/her life that he/she could look back and be proud that he or she got married to you; or is he/she regrets that he/she married you?. What are you doing in your marriage to get your spouse happy and fulfilled in life?
The problem with some marriages is that some couples entered such marriages with the mindset of what they expect to get from such marriages and not what to give out. For that reason, they are not bothered if their spouses are happy and fulfilled in that marriage or not.
So going by the principle of give and take, a couple should strive to see that their spouses are happy and fulfilled in their marriage. In other words, whatever you are expecting from your spouse, you should be ready and willing to provide that for your spouse.
That is to say, by ensuring that your spouse is happy and fulfilled, you will end up being happy and fulfilled yourself and that will equally end up bringing out the best from your spouse.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and ensure that you operate the above principles to make your marriage successful and exciting. Shalom