Infidelity is one of the most things that crash marriages. In our society today it seems that men are more vulnerable to fall for extramarital affairs most times than women. So I ask you this question, suppose you catch your husband red-handed cheating on you?
The above question was asked in a marriage seminar some time ago and I got varieties of answers. Some answers were positive while some were negative. Look at reaction of this woman over the issue
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The majority of the answers I got in that marriage seminar from women said that they will file for divorce immediately. That is what happened in the stories mostly seen on the internet. Some said that they will pack out of the man’s house the following day of the incident.
Equally, the Internet is full of stories of cheating spouses caught red-handed in the act. So as a married woman, how would you handle such a situation?
I am not a prophet of doom but you need to resolve within yourself how you will handle such a situation suppose such a situation should happen to you.
The majority of the women who said that they will file for divorce are wrong because their husbands may not have cheated on them with their rightful mind.
I said this because another woman may be interested in your husband as to snatch your husband from you. So you may end up playing into the hands of such woman by your anger and erratic negative reactions.
Since your husband is still wearing flesh, another woman may seduce and have affairs with him with your knowledge. The plan is to force you to pack out of your husband’s house in anger or to file for divorce. This will enable her to pack in and take over your husband.
Moreover, another woman may have used a love potion, charm, or juju on your husband. In other words, the action of your husband may have been influenced by a force beyond his control. This means that he may not have cheated on you with his rightful mind.
You should equally understand that something may have gone wrong somewhere and another woman may capitalize on it to blackmail your husband. As such, she may compel your husband to have affairs with her. That means that your husband may not have cheated on you willingly.
Also, I should not fail to mention that some women are responsible for the actions of their husbands. This is because a woman who for weeks refused to satisfy her husband $exually, the man may be forced to look for satisfaction outside.
What I am saying, therefore, is that if you catch your husband cheating on you, the incident should not crash your marriage. You should not rush to file for divorce or pack out of his house; rather you should first of all try and find out why he betrayed you by cheating on you.
I will prove what I am saying by the following live example. Some years ago in Nigeria during the military era, a man was awarded a #150 million contract by one state military administrator. The man borrowed some amount from the bank to execute the project.
It happened that before the man finished the project there was a change in the administration of that state and the new military governor was not interested in that project, so he refused to pay the man.
As a result, the man sold some of his properties to pay the bank and that left him with nothing as he started suffering. For two years it was his wife who was catering for the family.
Then came the year 2000 when a civilian government took over governance. The new civilian governor was so interested in the project that he approved that the man should be paid the amount he was owed plus an extra #1 million to tidy up the project site for commissioning.
The admin secretary (a single lady) in the governor’s office hid the file that day and invited the man to her house. When the man arrived at her house she convinced the man that she will facilitate the payment of the contract if he will agree to marry her as the second wife.
The man agreed and in addition she insisted that the man should have fun with her that day which the man obliged. Two days later, the man was called to come and pick the check for the payment of contract he executed.
The man was surprised for the payment in addition to the extra amount paid to him. The man wholeheartedly believed that it was the lady that was behind that payment that he went and fulfilled everything about her marriage and brought her to his house as the second wife.
The first wife was cool and continued to live with the man despite all the provocation of the other lady. After six months, the lady packed out of the man’s house saying that she don’t want to be a second wife.
The lady had thought that the first wife would in anger pack out of the man’s house or that the man would send her packing when she arrived at the man’s house. Since the first wife refused to pack out and her husband refused to send her parking, she picked out herself.
The summary of what I am saying is that you should not because you caught your husband cheating on you and end your marriage in divorce or pack out of the man’s house.
The reason is that your husband may be under manipulation by another woman. You should rather stay and help your husband to break off from the hold of another woman.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and don’t allow another woman to snatch your husband under your nose. Shalom!
