Today in our society, this is an obvious fact “we all entered into marriage relationships with the high hope or desire of having a happy and exciting marriage”. But in reality, some are enjoying their marriages to the fullness while some couples their marriages are dragging.
Some couples have failed marriages while marriages of greater numbers of couples are at the verge of collapse or failure. So I wish to ask, how has your own marriage fared? Is it exciting, boring or at the verge of collapse?
The obvious fact I wish to point out is that if couples knew what they ought to know about marriage and as well apply the correct principles that make for successful and exciting marriages, their own marriages will be successful and exciting.
However, there are many things couples are doing in their marriages that are forcing or will force their marriages to collapse or fail.
If you analyze closely some already failed marriages, you will observe that some of these elements of what caused such marriages to fail or collapse, if such is in your own marriage; you should take drastic actions to avoid your own marriage from failing.
Getting married to a selfish partner is perhaps one of the major cause of marriage failure. This is a known fact; there are couples who entered into a marriage relationship with the aim of what to get out of their marriage and not what to give out.
The marriages of such couples hardly survive as you always see them complain and accuse their spouses of doing and not doing that, they are never satisfied with the actions of their partner.
That is to say, such couples, when they fail to get enough of what they want from their marriage, they call it a quit. So if you happened to be married to a selfish partner, know for sure that your marriage may surely fail unless he or she changes his or her attitude.
Again, marrying a manipulator is another major cause of marriage failure. There are couples, because of their selfishness mindset of what they are expecting from their marriages. They do everything to manipulate their partners to do their biddings so as to get what they want.
Some women even apply some unconventional means such as juju, charm, and spells to control their partners.
Such couples, when they feel that they failed in manipulating their spouses, they call it a quit. If you happen to have married a manipulator, the only reason the marriage is still holding is that you are still yielding to his or her manipulation. The very moment you react or refuse to be manipulated, that may signal the end of such marriage.
Moreover, there are men and women who are hard to please and marrying such men/ women, you are sure that your marriage will surely fail. You should, therefore, pray that you don’t get married to a man or woman who is hard to please.
For such men and women, their partners may be dying in silence, doing everything they knew or could do to please their partners, yet the more they try, the more it appears as if they have not started as their partners are never pleased.
Hard to please men and women are quick to compare their spouses with other women or men they saw in town and because they are not always satisfied with their own spouses, they always find faults with their spouses, and sooner than later, they abandon their spouses for someone they feel are better.
Such men and women always demand and want to get more from their partners and the moment they feel that they are not getting much from their spouse, they call such marriage a quit. That is why marriages of hard to please men or women hardly survive.
Again getting married to unmarriageable men or women is another cause of marriage failure. You should pray that you don’t get married to an unmarriageable man or woman. Recently I was watching Emmanuel TV and a man was lamenting that since he got married to his wife – a princess, he has been suffering.
According to the man, the reason for his suffering is that his wife doesn’t know how to cook or take care of the house. According to him, the only time he enjoys a good meal is if he went to the kitchen to prepare such food even though his wife is around in the house. Most a time, the man is the one who goes to the kitchen to wash the plates and tidy the kitchen.
Of a truth, the very reason that marriage has survived is that that man has the time and grace to do all these things in the house as his wife is an unmarriageable material. But for how long will such a man go on with such a marriage?
Also, there are men who are unmarriageable as well. I read about such men in http://wholefamily.com. In that site, a woman sent this to Dr. Dobin, “I have been married nine years and we have four children, three boys, and one girl.
I feel that my husband is very self-centered. He is a full-time public defender who puts no effort into child care or maintaining the home. He also puts no time into our marriage”.
Marrying a contentious and an angry woman is sure to cause marriage failure. if you are a man, GOD ‘save your soul” that you don’t get married to what the Bible calls a contentious and an angry woman.
See Proverbs 21:19 “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman”. Proverbs 25:24 “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house”.
It is a known fact, marriages of a contentious and an angry woman hardly survive as men in such marriages run for their lives from such marriages or else the men will die before their time.
Finally marrying a partner with body odor is sure to cause a marriage failure. I pointed out the issue of body odor in one of my earlier article “Top reasons why some marriages May surely fail. (2)”.
Marrying a partner with body odor, such marriages hardly survive. You can read the following to see what happened in reality:
If you are still single and planning to marry, pray that you don’t get any of the above mentioned as a wife or husband or else your marriage will be heading for a failure in due time.
However, if you happened to be in such a marriage relationship unless something drastic is done to remedy the situation; your marriage may likely hit the rock.