Today in our society, marriages rise and fall. If you look at the rate of divorce, you will observe that they are so alarming. One may wonder why couples normally rush to court to end their marriage at any slightest challenge.
In reality, one of the major reason why this is so is lack of commitment to one’s marriage and their spouse. So I ask you this personal question, “how committed are you to your marriage and spouse”?
The level couples are committed to their marriage determines whether they will succeed in their marriage or not and that will equally determine whether they will enjoy sweet and exciting marriage or not.
When we talk about commitment, it means resolve by couples to pay the necessary prize or sacrifice to keep their marriage going no matter the situation. In other words, the resolve to sink or swim with your spouse is what commitment is all about.
One other thing about commitment is that it is for life of any marriage. The problem with some couples is that they were committed to each other and to their marriage at the early days of their marriages but tend to lower the level of their commitment as the years of their marriages go by.
You may say that you are committed to your spouse and marriage, but what is the level of your commitment? I am asking this question because some couples only give their second best in their commitment to their marriage.
The level of commitment we are talking about here is 100% commitment and not having some reservation in your commitment. Briefly, we shall look at some actions that prove whether you are committed to your marriage or not.
In the first instance, couples who are committed to their marriage are known by their obedience to the Bible injunctions of what was said in Ephesians 5:22 and 25 which says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her and Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”.
Men who are committed to their spouse and marriage will so love their wives as a man who loves his wife will never think of raising his hands to beat his wife. Also, women who are submissive to their husbands will never open their mouth to abuse their husbands. So, couples must show real commitment to loving each other if they are ever to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
Moreover, couples who are committed to their spouse and marriage, they love and accept their spouses on who they are and will never compare their spouses with other men or women.
Whenever you begin to compare your husband or wife with any other man or woman in the society or your marriage with other marriages, it means that you are not 100% committed to your spouse and marriage.
Again couples who are committed to each other and their marriage, they are ready or willing to compromise at all times. By been willing compromise means that they are ready and willing to pay any prize to sustain their marriage and to please their spouse.
Such couples never have irreconcilable differences as some cite “irreconcilable differences” as the cause of their marriage failures. Irreconcilable differences are the result of selfishness on the part of couples and those who are committed to their spouse and marriages are never selfish.
In addition, couples who are committed to their spouse s and marriages, they are at all times willing and ready to satisfy each other $exually. In other words, they are well adjusted $exually to each other.
For couples to deny or starve each other $ex is a sign that they are not committed 100% to each other and to their marriage. In other words, couples who are committed to each other and their marriages, they enjoy $exual harmony in their marriage.
When you talk of $exual harmony by couples, husbands never demand for $exual satisfaction from their wives as their right but a privilege while women also see satisfying $exually their husbands as a privilege. By so doing, they both get satisfied.
Moreover, couples who are committed to their marriages and to each other, they are known by the quick way they resolve misunderstandings and conflicts. Those who are not committed to their marriages, they don’t mind if a little conflict scatters their marriages or not. While those who are committed will never allow any conflict to scatter their marriages.
Also, couples who are committed to their marriages will never abandon their duties at home. That is a man who is committed to his marriage will never abandon providing for the upkeep of his family no matter what. The same way, a woman who is committed to her marriage will ensure that her family takes nourishing meals.
In reality, couples who are committed to each other and to their marriage that shows much intimacy with each other. In other words, couples who are not intimate with each other is a sign that they are not 100% committed to their marriage and spouse.
In conclusion, you really sit down and analyze your commitment to your marriage and spouse because the level of your commitment is what will determine if you will enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
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