This is the second part of our discussion on the series “major reasons that some marriages failed, we should avoid”. Please Be sure that you read the first part, for a better understanding.
As we continue in our discussion, one other major issue that causes some marriages to fail is allowing certain unresolved conflicts and misunderstandings to linger for so long. It is obvious, that there are couples who allow certain conflicts and misunderstandings between them to linger for so long unresolved, some of these conflicts eventually grow to a magnitude that eventually crashes such marriages.
The fact is that allowing unresolved conflicts to linger for a long time leads to cracks in such marriages. It is, therefore, necessary that couples should never allow any conflict or misunderstanding to linger for so long unresolved. They should quickly and quietly resolve any conflicts that ever crop up.
Once couples notice any crack in their marriage, they should try to fix it immediately and should avoid allowing it to linger for so long. When I talk about crack, I mean misunderstandings, conflicts, and little quarrels that are allowed to linger.
Another major issue that is responsible for marriage failures is allowing love between them to get soured by couples. Love is the bedrock and oil that lubricates any marriage, but unfortunately, some couples out of negligence allow the love between them to get soured.
It is therefore necessary that couples who don’t wish to experience failed marriages should endeavor never to allow their love for each other to get soured.
Indeed, I have never seen couples who have a deep love for each other, whose marriages will end in divorce. It is only when love for each other gets soured that other negative things begin to follow, such as conflicts that lead to divorce.
Moreover, remember what we discussed in part one about selfishness that causes irreconcilable differences. Whenever couples allow selfishness to take hold of them, their marriages are heading for failure. It is a fact, that some couples are in marriage relationships for the reason of what to grab from such a marriage relationship.
For such couples, they don’t mind whether they are giving out anything in return or whether their spouses are getting anything in return. It is very obvious, that once they failed to get those things they desire or what they expected from their spouse, conflict is the next thing that results which eventually crashes such marriages.
In addition, another major cause of failed marriages is lack of commitment to one’s marriage: Most often, it is a lack of commitment to one’s spouse and marriage that causes some issues mentioned above to get introduced in such marriages.
Before ending this post, I will not fail to talk about $exual disharmony in marriage, which is one of the major causes of marriage failure. Obviously, $exual disharmony is one of the major causes of failed marriages
Finally, I remember the Bible study,, we did in one Christian forum as part of their family week, which was titled “little foxes that spoil the vine with respect to marriages”. One of such little foxes is neglect to maintain themselves by couples.
It is a little fax because it is not one of the major causes of failed marriages, but it influences other factors that cause failed marriages. Take for instance some women, who allow themselves to become overweight and some even get out of shape. It is because of such that they lose $ex appeal before their husbands.
It is an obvious fact, that some men get attracted to some ladies because they are beautiful and elegant. However, some of these elegant ladies few years after marriage, you will observe that they are now out of shape.
One Christian brother was bold enough to complain that the woman he had at home was not the same woman he saw years ago that attracted him to marriage. He went further to say that the woman he has with him in his house as his wife looks far older than his mother.
It is obvious that the said man is enduring his marriage instead of enjoying it. God has mercy if the brother will not be tempted to seek $exual satisfaction outside his matrimonial home.
Talking about women, there was another man that complained that his wife smells, and worse still, having $exual relationship with her is hell on earth as he always vacates his bedroom after that because of offensive odors.
Situations like that force some men to engage in infidelity, as they always seek $exual satisfaction outside their matrimonial homes. Some ended up marrying another wife as a result.
To this end, it is necessary that couples should vow never to allow any other man or woman to snatch his or her wife or husband. They should be so committed to each other and should vow to sink or swim with their spouse.
In conclusion, if you don’t allow in your marriage any of the factors mentioned above which had caused some marriages to fail, your own marriage will never fail. So I encourage you to stay committed to your marriage and never allow it to fail. Shalom.
