In our world today, men rule their world by secrets. In other words, it is only those who know and apply these secrets in their various life endeavors that rule their world in such areas.
However, ignorance is actually the bane of our society as some are failures in certain areas of their lives such as marriages as a result of ignorance. That calls for the reasons why some successful men and women are failures in their marriage.
To this end, it is obvious that there are some men and women, who are highly successful in their various life endeavors, but they are awful failures in their marriage.
That was the reason the royal marriage of Prince Charles and Princess Diana failed some years ago. Also, the marriage of Billionaires like John Caldwell, is equally history as it equally failed.
Even men and women of God are not spared as one of the great man of GOD pastor Chris paid the ultimate prize of divorce from his wife pastor Anita.
The above goes to show that no matter who you are, if you toil with certain marriage principles, your own marriage will be heading for a crash as well.
However, there are certain solid marriage principles that if diligently apply or implement in your marriage, your marriage will be successful and exciting.
In this segment, we shall be looking at some solid marriage principles that will never fail. The first of such marriage principle is leaving and cleaving as to become one flesh. Please, look at what GOD said in Genesis 2: 24 where he says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
As a man, you must necessarily leave your father and mother and cleave to your wife if you expect your marriage to be a success. One proof that you cleaved to your wife is that the two of you will become one flesh. You can never be one flesh unless you are cleaved to each other.
Another bible translation (Bible in Basic English) puts it this way “For this cause will a man go away from his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and they will be one flesh”.
In other words, for one to cleave to his wife means to be joined together in an inseparable manner, as such becoming one flesh. Are you truly joined together with your wife, or can you say truly that you are one flesh with your wife?
The next principle is with regard to what the Bible said in Ephesians 5:25. In that verse, it says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her”.
The book of Ephesians 5:28 equally says, “So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. Men who toil with thew principle of showing unconditional love to their wives will pay the ultimate prize of marriage failure.
Next is the principle of submission: We can see this in Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”. The book of Colossians 3:18 equally says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands as it is fitting in the Lord”.
Love and submission are two principles that work together. In other words, your wife deserves your unconditional love if you expect her to submit to you and your husband deserves your submission if you expect him to love you unconditionally.
Another is the principle of intimacy in marriage: Remember what Genesis 2: 24 said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Couples must be intimate with each other before they can ever become one flesh. In other words, you must create and spend quality time with each other if you are to become intimidate with each other.
I have never seen couples who are intimate with each other that goes for divorce. It is an intimacy that fuels the love for each other and without intimacy, love will dry up or die. Show me couples that create quality time for each other to be intimate with each other, and I will show you a successful married couple.
Lastly the principle of give and take: if couples will realize that what is obtained in their marriage is the result of their inputs in that marriage. That is the reason I often say that your marriage is as good or bad as you make it.
As couples, could you say that something improve in the life of your spouses since you got married to him or her. In other words, we must see marriage as a give and take if we must see that improvement in the life of our spouse.
That is to say, we must ensure that our attitudes and actions are aimed as causing our spouse to be fulfilled in our marriage. In other words, can your husband or wife look back and thank God that he/she married you?
One thing that can create such impression is that since you got married to that man or woman, there are tangible improvements in the life of your spouses that he/she could look back and be proud that he or she married you.
In reality, most couples are regretting that he/she married their wives or husbands. What therefore are you doing in your marriage to get your spouse fulfilled in life?
The problem with some marriages is that some couples entered such marriages with the mindset of what they expect to get from such marriages and not minding what are expected of them or what to give out.
For that reason, they are not bothered if their spouses are happy and fulfilled in that marriage or not as long as themselves are happy and fulfilled. If your spouse makes you happy and fulfilled. You should ensure that your attitude and actions equally make him/her happy and fulfilled.
So going by the principle of give and take, couples should strive to see that their spouses are happy and fulfilled in their marriage. In other words, whatever you are expecting from your spouse, you should be ready and willing to provide that for your spouse.
I wish to point out that by ensuring that our spouses are happy and fulfilled, we will end up being happy and fulfilled ourselves.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and ensure that you operate the above solid principles to make your marriage successful and exciting. Shalom!