In our society today, many marriages are engulfed with marital frictions and conflicts. Almost all marriages, experience certain frictions, and conflicts or the other. However, it is the way such frictions and conflicts are handled that determines the effect on such marriages.
In some marriages, it is the negative management of frictions and conflicts that causes such marriages to collapse, while positive management or handling of frictions and conflicts in some marriages makes such marriages thrive or succeed.
In this segment, we shall be looking at the causes of some marital frictions or conflicts and ways of handling them positively to avoid the crash of such marriages. In the first instance, unconditional love for each other is said to be the lubricant that lubricates every successful marriage. It is when love in marriages gets sour that certain frictions or conflicts start to rear their head.
So, the starting point to positively dealing with frictions and conflicts in marriage is for couples to try and safeguard their marriages to prevent their love for each other from getting sour.
One manifestation in marriages where love had gotten sour is $exual disharmony and $exual disharmony is the major cause of infidelity and infidelity breeds conflicts or frictions in marriages.
When one of the parties gets involved in extramarital affairs, the other party feels hurt and betrayed. As a result, the Love becomes poisoned or sour and if this matter is not resolved, the marriage relationships will end up collapsing.
The Cure for infidelity is for couples to ensure that there is $exual harmony in their marriages. However, if one partner happened to get involved in infidelity, there must be total repentance of the offending party as well as total forgiveness by the offended party.
I wish to point out that married women have a major role to play here. They should do their best to secure their husbands as some other women, especially young ladies, could do everything to seduce and sleep with your husbands, all in an effort to cause your love for each other to get sour.
Secondly, couples must ensure that there is $exual harmony in their marriages as $exual maladjustment as most often $exual maladjustment is another cause of frictions or conflicts in marriages.
Without missing words, $exual maladjustment results from the inability or neglect to satisfy each other $exually. Of a truth, this has caused and still causes conflicts or frictions among couples.
It is highly unfortunate that this issue of $ex that GOD made to be a source of joy and happiness in marriage should bring friction or conflicts in marriages? It is pertinent to say that this issue $exual maladjustment has caused and is still causing divorce among couples.
I wish also to point out that some women are responsible for $exual disharmony in their marriages as a result of loosing their $ex appeal before their husbands. There are many other causes responsible for women losing their $ex appeal.
In another development, couples abandoning or neglecting their roles and responsibilities at home causes frictions and conflicts in marriages. When one or both couples fail to live up to their role and responsibilities at home, frictions are bound to be the result or order of the day.
For instance, when men neglect the responsibility of taking care of their family, leaving that responsibility to their wives. When a man neglects his role and responsibility, leaving it for the wife, with time, there will be frictions and conflicts because the time may come when the man may lose control of the family.
Of a truth, there are families where men don’t have any say again because it is their wives that take care of the family. Also, some women neglect their role and responsibilities of organizing the feeding of their families. The truth is that, if you come to some families, this role and responsibility are left in the hands of the house helps.
With time, some men will begin to have unwarranted affection for the house helps because she is the one that the man sees all the time that brings food for him. Women, don’t neglect this role and responsibility and let your family feel your impact by entering the kitchen to cook for your husbands and families from time to time.
Moreover, some couples are so selfish, and as such; their marriages are engulfed in friction and conflicts. Some couples are in a marriage relationship solely for what to grab and not what to give. They are not bothered, about whether their partner is receiving something from the relationship, about whether their partner is happy or fulfilled or not.
A marriage relationship should be a give and take affair, but when one party is only giving but not receiving, the time may come when the person that is giving always may get fed up and stop. When such happens, there may be friction.
The absence of the fruits of the womb (child or children) also causes frictions or conflicts in marriage: There are couples who are married for years without any fruit of the womb to show. As a result, there are frictions in various quarters as there are accusations and counter-accusations of who is responsible and who is not responsible.
Some men end up leaving their wives or sacking their wives as a result and in the African and other Muslim world, some men end up marrying two wives. It is pertinent to point out that couples who were able to positively or constructively manage the conflicts that arose between them, adjust to each other far better than couples who fail to adjust or have adjustment.
If couples will learn to positively manage frictions and conflicts in their marriages very, they will end up enjoying sweet and exciting marriage. Shalom!
