This is the second part of the series; hope you have read the first part as this is the continuation. If not, you need to read part one for a better understanding of the post.
GO HERE to read part one. In that part one; we looked at the first point of GOD’S blueprints. Here in this second part, we shall be looking at the continuation of the rest of God’s blueprints we must follow if we are to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
The first point we looked at in part one is that “a man should leave his father and mother”. Secondly, after leaving his father and mother, the next thing is that “the man should cleave to his wife”. I looked at the word cleave in Encarta dictionary, and it defined it as to “cling faithfully to somebody or something: to cling closely, steadfastly, or faithfully to somebody or something”.
So for a man to cleave to his wife, means that the man has no room for other women. A man who cleaves to his wife will surely feel ashamed to allow another woman except his woman doctor to see his nakedness.
Obviously, I see men who easily fall for extra-marital affairs, like men who never cleaved to their wives. When you cleave to your wife, you will so love her that you will never imagine jumping upon another woman to have extramarital affairs with her. If you say you cleave to your wife, what are you doing with another woman in bed?
The third is “and they shall be one flesh”: In mathematics, 1+1=2 (one plus one) is equal to two, but in marriage 1+1=1 (one plus one) is equal to one and that is the principle of being one flesh. To be one flesh means to be united in body, soul, and spirit.
Couples who see themselves as one flesh never offend each other because doing so is like offending them. I see couples who abuse one another as couples who are yet to become one flesh indeed because I never see any man and woman that abuse his or her own flesh.
When you are one flesh indeed, you will be like-minded in that anything that offends your partner offends you when your partner is not happy; you end up not being happy. In fact, you will strive to do things that will make your partner happy and in doing so will be happy yourself.
Fourthly, “and they were both naked, the man and his wife”: This is one of the blueprints that many couples are not obeying. Some couples are not naked to themselves and that is the reason their marriages continue to be engulfed in crises and marriage breakdowns. One may ask, do I mean physical nakedness?
No, it does not mean physical nakedness, a couple need not be too secretive to one another but totally open to one another in everything.
Couples who are secretive to one another are the couples, who never have confidence and trust in each other. It is the state of not being secretive to one another that it is meant that “they were both naked, the man and his wife”. My dear, ensure that both of you are not secretive to one another, for that is what it means to be both naked.
The fifth and the final is that “they were not ashamed”: Couples who compare their spouse with other men or women are the ones who are ashamed of each other. It is not to be so because, in God’s original blueprint, the man, and his wife were not ashamed. Show me couples that are ashamed of each other, I will show you couples whose marriages will not last, whose marriage will surely fail.
That is why I counsel young men and women looking for life partners to really consider and choose persons they would ever be proud of. The tendency is that if you are not proud of your spouse, later you get fed up with him/her and begin to compare him or her with other men or women out there in the society.
I wish to ask, are you truly proud of your spouse? If you are asked to make the choice of the woman to marry the second time, will you still choose your spouse?
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Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage. Shalom. Before you leave, GO HERE if you have not read part one.