According to Myles Monroe, you must follow the manufacturer’s manual if you don’t want to damage a new product you bought. It was when I damaged a new electronic I bought that the reality of what late Dr. Myles Monroe said became clear to me.
That electronic, I plugged it directly to an electric socket and the transformer got burnt because that electronic needed a power step down.
Instead, I plugged it directly to power contrary to what was specified by the manufacturer manual but I did not look at the manual before I started using it.
The same issues happen to us with our marriages. Many are having crises and crashes of their marriages because they failed to follow the principles of God the manufacturer of marriage.
In other words, if you wish to have a stable marriage that works, then you must necessarily follow God’s principles of marriage. We shall look at these principles in this post:
First and foremost, we shall look at what happened at the beginning of time as can be seen in Genesis 2: 18. As a man, if you are to have a successful marriage, you must have at the back of your mind the real purpose of God for creating marriage.
In that verse 18 “ And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him. In other words, one major reason God created marriage is for companionship. As a man, you must recognize it.
That verse 18, look at how the World English Bible puts it, “Yahweh God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.”
Secondly, as a man, ensure that you choose the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh. Look at what happened in Genesis 2:21-23 ¶ And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man. And Adam said this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man.
One of the major reasons why many marriages collapsed is because the man did not choose his right rib. As a man, once you make a mistake in the choice of who you marry, your marriage is bound to fail.
To make the right choice of who to marry, you must go to sleep and allow God to guide you. For Adam, God first of all put him to sleep before he brought Eve from his side.
See verse 21 “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof”.
Another principle that any woman that wish to enjoy a successful marriage should accept and obey can be seen in verses 21-22” And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.
And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman and brought her unto the man.
You see God made Adam from the dust and breathed into his nostrils a breath of life and used only one rib from Adam to form Eve. What that means is that the woman comes from a man.
So as a woman, any day you try to claim equality with your husband, you are seeking the crash of your marriage.
Also as a man, the woman was taken from your side and not from your leg. So you must recognize that the woman was taken from your side and should be by your side always not under your feet.
Moreover look at verse 23 “And Adam said, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of Man”. Adam saw Eve as the bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh.
In other words, as a man, you must accept or recognize your wife as the bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh. It is men who fail to recognize their wives that raise their hands to beat their wives in domestic violence.
The next principles are seen in Genesis 2:24” Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Any man who wishes to enjoy a marriage that works, he must necessarily leave his father and mother in other to cleave to his wife. As a man have you left your father and mother?
After leaving his father and mother, a man must as well necessarily cleave to his wife as to become one flesh. A man can never be one flesh with his wife except he cleaves to her.
I looked at the word cleave at Encarta Dictionary and it says, to stick, hold on, stick to like glue, cling, conjoin (formal), link, embrace. A man who cleaves to his wife will never imagine raising his hands to beat her.
Next, it is after cleaving to his wife that a man can become one flesh with his wife. Couples that cleave to each other as to become one flesh can never imagine allowing anything to separate them.
Finally, another principle can be seen in Mark 10:9 what therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. What this principle is saying is that you must ensure that it is God who joined you and your wife together.
Couples who saw their marriage as being joined by God never allow anything to put them asunder while as those who men join together, men can as well put them asunder.