Some time years ago, I read in Kemifinali’s blog a letter sent by one lady who was lamenting that she got divorced at the age of 31. In her letter, she wrote asking if she can still find True Love again?
Also, I read the following write-up in https://www.mumsnet.com of a lady who was asking if she was being unreasonable by wanting a divorce after only 6 months of marriage.
Her letter reads, we have been together 5 years and 6 months, married for the 6 months. We are young (I am 20) but I think it was a huge mistake. I just don’t love him anymore.
He feels more like an annoying brother than a husband. I don’t find him attractive anymore, and I won’t sleep with him. I don’t know what to do. I really want out.
Looking at the two situations above, you will observe that they are similar. The two ladies and gentlemen were searching for true love. Also, the first situation was about the lady who was divorced while still 31 years of age.
The above situation of the lady was pathetic, while some ladies were married at the age of 31, years of age, the age she was divorced. That means that the man that married her divorced her within a short period of marriage.
The reason may be because the said man no longer loves her as the man may no longer find her attractive anymore and that is the reason he decided not to sleep with her anymore and eventually divorced her.
All these go to confirm my earlier posts, especially the post on “Dealing With Issues Why Some Marriages May Surely Fail”. The rate of marriage failures today is high because couples are not committed to their marriage, while some are a result of ignorance, not knowing what to do to keep their marriage alive and well.
If you are married or planning to marry, it is good that you take time to read that article because as I pointed out in that article there are certain issues that if you notice that exists in a marriage, you will see that the marriage will never last as such marriage will surely fail.
However, what we are to discuss here is about finding true love. Love is said to be the bedrock of lasting and successful marriages because it is the lubricating force of every successful and exciting marriage.
Any marriage where there is no genuine love, God has mercy, that marriage may never last unless one of the parties is paying a heavy price to keep the marriage going. In other words, that marriage is bound to fail.
By the way, what is true love? Is it plucked from a tree or bought from the market? I used to say it, many are enduring their marriage instead of enjoying it. The reason has been that true love is totally absent, and where true love exists, other wonderful things will surely follow.
I wish to point out that finding true love may be easy; however, it is not cheap because there are prizes to pay. Many of these marriage failures you are seeing today are from those who rushed into marriages, hoping to find true love, as they thought it was very cheap or free.
No, you must be committed to finding true love by paying the price to find true love. If you are not ready to pay the price of commitment, sorry, you may never find true love.
Another point I wish to make here is that if you are searching for true love, you may never find it unless you are ready and willing to give out True Love Yourself.
As said earlier, true love is not cheap or easy, it is something you take time to cultivate and nurture. In other words, it is not a one-day affair as it grows with time or it takes a time to grow.
I will tell you authoritatively that the reason why some don’t find true love is that they are not willing or ready to pay the price of giving out true love themselves. True love is reciprocal; those who are expecting true love should equally be willing and ready to give it out.
Taking the time to cultivate and nurture true love is where the real Prize lies because it may require you to pay some sacrifice in the beginning. The level of prize you pay determines the level of growth.
Another point to make is that some are not able to find true love, though they are searching for it seriously, is because they are looking for it in the wrong place.
Some men thought they can buy true love with their money, while some ladies thought that their beauty and free $ex will fetch them, true love.
These are all important in marriage, but not the ultimate because if it is the ultimate, Prince Charles and Princess Diana would never have divorced in the first place.
My lady, In my earlier posts, I talked about “packaging” and I wish to tell you authoritatively that finding true love from men, the starting point is to package yourself.
It is unfortunate that some ladies don’t know about packaging or what it takes to package themselves. As such, they are beating about the bush, yet they wonder why men are not showing interest in them for marriage.
When you package yourself incorrect manner, you will see that men will rush and start competing who will be the one to get your hands in marriage.
The summary of what I am saying is that true love is reciprocal, if it is not reciprocal, it will never grow. It is unfortunate that some ladies are mostly guilty, as some of them are in desperation to marry; they love and marry men who don’t love them.
As a result, the more they push themselves on the men, the more the men are taking advantage of them. To find true love, therefore, as a lady, you should never cheapen yourself before men.
Finally, my lady, I wish to assure you that it is possible to find true love if you are willing and ready to allow men searching for true love to find them in you. Shalom!
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