As a married man, how has your marriage fared over the past years? Are you enjoying a stress-free marriage? Is your marriage dragging, boring or exciting?
Whatever be the case or situation currently about your marriage, you can turn that marriage around or improve on it.
If your marriage is not successful, if your marriage is boring and not exciting, I am bold to say that you are responsible and partly to blame.
The reason is that you are not applying correctly the principles that make for exciting marriage.
In another way round, the marriage principles you are applying may be wrong and it may soon crash your marriage if you don’t change them.
Of a truth, if you wish to have a successful and exciting marriage, you must follow as a matter of fact the principles given by GOD as seen in the Bible as opposed to the one Geneva Convention brought out.
One of those Biblical principles can be seen in Ephesians 5:23 “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body”.
If you wish to have an exciting marriage, you must take responsibility and show a good leadership quality for your home and family.
To what extent are you offering a quality leadership in your marriage? Are you an autocratic leader who uses intimidation to get your wife do your bidding or do you offer leadership by consultation?
Some men are not taking responsibilities for their marriage and at the same time autocratic when it comes to taking decisions.
Some think that consulting their wives before taking decisions that affect their marriage is a sign of weakness.
This is not true, for instance, I am enjoying the best of my marriage and I do carry my wife along when it comes to taking major decisions by consulting her to get her own personal opinion.
In other words, we take major decisions together in which I bring my own options, and she brings her own options.
We put all the options down and weigh them before we chose the best of the options. It does not necessarily have to be one of the options I brought.
In fact, if you are carrying your wife along in taking major decisions, the issue of irreconcilable differences will never arise.
Moreover, another great biblical principle you must heed to if you wish to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage can be seen in Genesis chapter 2 verse 24
“Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”.
Men who had left their father and mother and cleave unto their wives and as well as becoming one flesh are men who are designed to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage.
Again, you must ensure that there are peace and harmony in your home. Particularly, if you have children, your wife and children must be comfortable to watch television with you as well as play with you.
In reality, there are men, immediately his wife and children see that he is at home, they all run away from the living room.
Instead of happiness, for your family to have stress and tension because of your presence is evidence that there is something wrong with your leadership at home.
Also as a man and leader in your marriage, you will never enjoy a successful and exciting marriage if you fail in your leadership role in your marriage.
As part of your leadership role in your family is the ability to take care of your wife and family. You must see it as your responsibility to provide for your wife and family.
See 1Timothy 5:8 “But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel”.
Moreover, another Biblical marriage principle you must have at the back of your mind and must be diligent to implement is the principle of having genuine love for your wife.
We can be seen in Ephesians’ 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
See also Ephesians 5:28 “So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself”.
Also, see Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife sees that she reverence her husband”.
You must so love your wife dearly without reservation, and your wife, in turn, should be convinced that you loved her.
Finally, another area of your marriage which you must take responsibility is about your $exual life.
In the past years, how was your $exlife like in your marriage? There are men who fail woefully when it comes to satisfying their wives $exually on the bed.
As a result, some women grew cold attitude toward $ex and their husbands turn around to complain.
As part of your leadership quality, you should display is the ability to carry your wife along so that the two of you enjoy a better $ex.
I define a better $ex as a $exual relationship in which the two parties both enjoyed it to the fullness, in which reached an orgasm.
The truth of the matter is that some men are so selfish when it comes to a sexual relationship with their wife.
Some are so self-centered, they only focus on self, and all they are after is how to get sexual satisfaction without bothering if their wives are satisfied.
May I ask you a personal question, “When last did you rock your wife on the bed that she reached an orgasm and feel satisfied?
If you are diligent in implementing all the above, you will observe that your wife and family will be happy.
When your wife is happy, she will try to make and keep you happy as well. In so doing, you will observe that your marriage will be exciting.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your wife and family. Shalom.
