In our last post, we looked at women who desire to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage. In this segment, we shall be looking at men who desire to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage as well.
I will start by asking you this personal question “ to what extent is your marriage a success”? Is your marriage as well, boring or exciting? I am bold to say that as a husband, you are responsible for the success or failure of your family.
I said that you are responsible for the success or failure of your marriage and should, partly to be blamed for the state of your marriage. The reason is that it is your correct application of known marriage principles that make for success of your marriage.
In other words, if the marriage principles you are applying are wrong, it may end up crashing your marriage except you change them while as you correctly applying them leads to a successful and exciting marriage.
Of a truth, if you wish to have a successful and exciting marriage, you must follow as a matter of fact follow the principles given by GOD as seen in the Bible.
One of those Biblical principles can be seen in Ephesians 5:23 which says, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body”.
As a husband, if you wish to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, you must take responsibility and demonstrate good leadership qualities in your home and family.
To what extent are you offering quality leadership in your marriage? Are you an autocratic leader who uses intimidation to get your wife to do your bidding or do you offer leadership by consultation?
Some men are not taking responsibility for their marriage and at the same time they are autocratic when it comes to taking decisions.
That is to say that as a man and husband, the leader in your marriage, you will never be able to enjoy successful and exciting marriage if you fail in your leadership role in your marriage.
Some men think that by consulting their wives before taking some major decisions that affect their marriage is a sign of weakness.
This is not true because you can never enjoy the best from your wife and marriage if you do not carry her along when it comes to taking major decisions by consulting her to get her own personal opinion.
In other words, you should take major decisions together in which you bring your own options and allow her to bring her own options.
The two of you then should put all the options down and weigh them together before choosing the best of the options.
It does not necessarily have to be your own options that you brought. In fact, if you are carrying your wife along with taking major decisions, the issue of irreconcilable differences will never arise.
Secondly, “Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh”. This is another great biblical principle you must heed to if you wish to enjoy successful and exciting marriage. This can be seen in Genesis 2:24.
In reality, it is men who had left their father and mother and cleaved to their wives and as well as become one flesh that are men who are designed to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage. To what extent are you one flesh with your wife?
Couples who cleave to each other and who succeeds to become one flesh will never allow their marriage to fail. Becoming one flesh, what effect one person touches the other.
Those who are quick to rush to law court to end their marriage in law court are never one flesh indeed. Succeed to become one flesh with your wife and you will begin to enjoy your marriage to the fullest.
Thirdly, you must ensure that there are peace and harmony in your home. Particularly, if you have children, your wife and children must be comfortable to watch television with you and as well as play with you.
Quite often, there are men, whose wives and children run away from the living room once they see that he is at home. Do your wife and children see you as the lion of the tribe of your home and run to hide themselves when you are present?
If your presence is causing stress and tension instead of happiness in your family, it is evidence that there is something wrong with your leadership style at home. In so doing, you will observe that your marriage will be successful and exciting.
Please keep a date with us next as we continue our discourse. Until I come your way again, stay committed to your wife and family. Shalom.