The book of Proverbs 14:1said that the wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands. In other words, women have a definite and important role to play in the success of every marriage.
To this end, in this post, we shall be discussing the basic things that women who desire to have a successful and exciting marriage should do. As a woman, if it is your desire to have a successful and exciting marriage, these basic things must be in place in your marriage.
Before we proceed, I wish to point out that as a woman, you hold the master key to whether you enjoy a successful and exciting marriage or not.
I said that women hold the master key to whether they enjoy successful and exciting marriage or not because that book of Proverbs 14:1 said it, “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands”. That is to say, as a married woman, you determine the shape your home takes.
So, you either build your home to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage or you scatter it. As part of building your home, the following basic things must be in place. I say is basic because it is what you know, but you are ignoring or neglecting them.
First, you must ensure that you are fulfilling the purpose God created you as a woman as can be seen in Genesis 2:18 which says, And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
That is to say that your husband should feel incomplete without you because you should fill that loneliness in him and as well as being a real help meet for him.
Next, what proves that a woman is real help meet to her husband is in her being submissive. In other words, as a married woman, if it is your desire to enjoy successful and exciting marriage, then you must as a necessity and conviction accept and obey the Biblical instructions of being submissive to your husband.
These instructions can be seen in Ephesians 5:22, which says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord”, and Colossians 3:1 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord”.
Submissiveness is the bedrock or starting point of women who wish to succeed or fail in her marriage. Women who fail or refuse to be submissive to their husbands can never enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
One of the reasons some women refuse to be submissive to their husbands is because of the Geneva Convention chatter which talks about women’s equality.
Yes, women have equal rights and privileges with their husbands in their marriage, but not equality in authority and leadership in any marriage.
It is an obvious fact; man is the leader and has the final authority in marriage. Any marriage in which the woman begins to challenge or usurp the authority and leadership of her husband, such marriage is heading for a breakdown and failure. The obvious reason is that GOD has placed man as the head of marriage.
A wise woman doesn’t challenge her husband over who is the head, rather, by being submissive, she becomes the neck. Practically, you will see that the head is being controlled by the neck.
In addition, a woman should learn to compliment her husband rather than compete with him: That is to say that as a married woman, if you wish to enjoy successful and exciting marriage, then you must learn to compliment your husband rather than compete with him.
The reason why many marriages are in crisis is that some women are competing with their husbands instead of complimenting them. There is harmony in a marriage when a woman is complimenting her husband rather than competing with him.
Any marriage in which the above-mentioned points are absent, it will be a mirage of any woman in such marriage to ever enjoy a successful and exciting marriage.
Until I come your way again, remain committed to building peace and harmony in your marriage. Shalom.
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