The obvious reasons, why some marriages are crumbling and ending in divorce, is because couples are bound with ignorance, they are doing what they ought not to do while failing to do what they ought to do and is expected of them.
There are many successful men and women in our society, renown in their chosen endeavor and profession but woeful failures at home in their marriages. There are men and women highly successful but have divorce once or twice.
As said, you may be a success in all your life endeavors but a failure in your marriage. Moreover, there are couples who are enduring their marriage instead of enjoying it.
In other words, their marriage relationships are so boring that they start regretting why they married that man or the woman. It is obvious that when we get bored in our marriage relationships, the next thing is that our love for each other gets sour and then dries up and dies.
When we don’t get what we expect from our marriages, we start thinking that we married the wrong person. But it is not so, because we may have married the right person but what we are putting into our marriage are not enough.
We are expecting much from the relationship while we are offering so little. And if your marriage is boring already, you need a spark; you need to put zest into your marriage relationships.
To start, you need to evaluate your relationships as to really find out where you have missed it in other to make amend. The reason has been that there may be something you are doing before which kept the relationship going which you may have stopped doing. Or there are things your spouses are expecting from you that you are denying him or her.
To this end, the following tips could help put zest to your married life. These tips may look so simple, but try them and see the result.
Your bedroom affairs ($ex life) is boring and need a spark: In marriage, one of the issues that bring crack in our relationship more or less starts in our bedroom affairs ($ex life).
A lady recently complained that her husband is no longer showing interest in having $ex with her, she suspects that the man is having affairs with other women.
I told her that if he is seen other women that she is the cause. The reason was that she may have caused her husband to lose affection for her or that she may have lost her $ex appeal before her husband.
This is an obvious problem with some women; they took their husbands for granted that they cause their husbands to lose affection for them, or they lost their $ex appeal before their husband.
I told the above lady in question that she needs to put a zest to her marriage, by rekindling her $ex appeal before her husband. I found out that for years, she used to take her baths alone and her husband the same.
That day, after I spoke with her, that evening when her husband came home and entered the bathroom to take his bath, she entered as well and stripped herself naked.
When the man saw her two apples, something was sparked off in him, and he pounced on the wife and started to romance and fondles her Brest as if he was seeing her nakedness (breasts) for the first time.
They left the bathroom and went straight to the bedroom where the man made love to her. That was how the woman rekindled her $ex appeal before her husband as nobody told her again the need to be bathing with her husband. So bathing together could help put a zest to your marriage life.
Your husband, the food he eats at home who prepares it and who serves him?
It is unfortunate that some women don’t bother whether their husband eats at home or not. It is said that one of the gateways to a man’s heart is through his stomach.
Again when last did you eat together with your husband? Some fail to understand that there are special bonds that are created in a family when they eat together.
So to win back the heart of your husband, the food or delicacies he likes, take a time to prepare and serve him yourself.
This may be one of the prizes you need to pay. Some families employed a qualified paid cook, so if that is the case, take a time to serve him the food yourself and stay with him while he eats the food or rather forms the habit of eating together with him.
Man, when last did you go for outing or occasion with your wife or family? To put zest to your marriage, you need to create time for your family, go sight seeing or outings with your wife and family.
There are times I go outing with my family; the only thing the children may demand may be ice cream though they will enjoy the outing.
Also, what prevents you from going on holiday with your family? If your children are grown-ups, what prevents you from going to lodge in a hotel for few days alone with your wife? This helps to put zest to your marriage.
However, to do all these, you need to be deeply committed to your marriage and the level of your commitment to your marriage more or less determines the success or failure. So stay focused and be committed to your marriage. Shalom.
