The position we actually have in today’s society, especially in our marital relationships, is a lack of adequate knowledge. We are placed there by the level of knowledge and understanding we have.
No wonder, Apostle Paul in 1st Corinthians chapter 14:20 admonished, “Brethren, be not children in understanding: howbeit in malice be ye children, but in understanding be men”.
In other words, if we really wish to excel in every area of life endeavors, then we must as a necessity goes for knowledge and understanding. The more we have an understanding of any issue, the more we will excel on that issue.
Also, in the book of Proverbs 13:15, it says, “Good understanding gains favor, but the way of the unfaithful is hard”. That is to say, the bane of our society today is ignorance, and worse still is assumed knowledge or claiming to know what we don’t know.
Recently, one of the associate pastors in the church where I worship, invited me to his office. I was in his office when a person who I considered an important dignitary arrived.
When the man arrived, he started by praising the materials the pastor gave him earlier to read, saying that the materials were classical as they touched the root of his marital problems.
The point was that the man was having marital issues, and the pastor asked him to go with me, that I was in a position to help him. Initially, the man was reluctant, but when the pastor told him that he wasn’t the author of the materials he was praising, that I was the author and that he downloaded the materials from my site.
The pastor gave him the address of the website and asked him to visit the site and check out things for himself. The man turned to me and said that by his position in society, he didn’t imagine that he should be having marital issues.
I am happy to report that the marriage of the man who was on the verge of collapse or breaking down turned around to blossom. What I am trying to say is that the man just as many of us in our society thought or assumes that he knew a lot about his marital issues while in an actual sense he didn’t know.
So I wish to ask you, the issue you assume to know, do you have relevant or adequate knowledge of that issue. If you visit some newspapers stand in some part of my country, you will observe some people making some political arguments.
In their arguments, they will be exhibiting their ignorance on some issues which they thought they knew about. So if you don’t want to exhibit ignorance, especially on marital issues, then you should go for relevant or adequate knowledge of those issues.
The man in question, I told him as I am telling you now, that as long as he was harboring within himself malice with his wife that he will continue to have marital problems. That is why Paul admonished us in 1st Corinthians:14:20b “howbeit in malice be ye children”
When it comes to the issue of malice, Paul admonished us that we should be children. The lifestyle of children is that they may quarrel or fight this minute, but in the next minutes, they are together playing, not remembering that they have quarreled.
So to succeed in your marital destiny, you should imbibe the lifestyle of children as far as the issue of malice with your spouse is concerned.
In summary, Apostle Paul was admonishing us that when it comes to the issue of knowledge and understanding, we should be men and women while when it comes to in keeping malice, we should be children.
So, my dear, you should not be children in understanding while as in malice, we should be children, but in understanding, we should be men. When we are truly men and women of understanding, it is then that we will excel in every area of our life. Shalom!