The reason why there are lots of failed marriages today is that some jump into marriage relationships expecting to enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage at no cost. Some thought it was very cheap that every Dick and Harry could enjoy it.
As a marriage counselor, I won’t deceive you; sweet and exciting marriage is definitely very simple, but it is not very cheap as some may think. It is only those who are selfish that think that they can enjoy a sweet and exciting marriage at no cost.
That is to say, the enjoyment of a sweet and exciting marriage goes with prizes – there are prizes you must definitely need to pay to enjoy sweet and exciting marriage continuously. You need to consciously need to invest in your marriage and wish you enjoy the dividends of exciting marriage.
In other words, those who wish to enjoy the dividend of enjoying a sweet and exciting marriage; must definitely and consciously need to invest in their marriage. The level you invest in your marriage determines the level to which you enjoy the dividend of sweet and exciting marriage.
Some Areas You Need To Invest In Your Marriage.
As a man, you don’t just bring a woman into your house as a wife to be cooking for you and satisfying you $exually at will. Yes, you definitely will enjoy these things, but you must or need to understand that you have responsibilities towards her.
In a marriage, when a man neglects such responsibilities, there are always crises and marriage breakdowns. It is unfortunate that in marriages, some men are neglecting their responsibilities and the greater prize for such neglect is marriage breakdown.
Man, realize that it is your responsibility to maintain that woman: To maintain means to provide for her needs, providing for the family upkeep like feeding. Others are the rent if you are not living in your own house, water bill, electricity bill, sanitation bill, etc. However, if your wife is a working-class lady or earns some income, hers is to supplement your efforts.
Moreover, there are times you come to some families and see the quality of food they are taking, you will pity them. It is not that the men of the house don’t have money, but that they are not bothered about the feeding of their household.
Remember that at the point of your marriage you were called a bridegroom while your wife was called the bride. What that means is that you are meant to be a bride groomer. That is to say, the bride that was given to you in marriage is for you to groom her. You can’t truly groom her without investing in her and your marriage.
You should realize that the public image of your wife and children amplifies your own public image. When your wife and children are happy and fulfilled, that will reflect in your own happiness and fulfillment. So you really need to invest in them if you really wish to have marital rest and enjoy the dividends of enjoying an exciting marriage.
Another area you really need to invest in your marriage is your time.
Some men complain that they don’t have time yet they will create time to watch football, especially during the world cup. What you don’t have time for is what you don’ place value on. Since the success of the marital relationship hinges on the intimacy of couples.
So you really need to create time to build intimacy with your wife and children. The truth is that some men have no time for their wives and family due to the nature of their work or business which made them leave their house very early before their children wake up and come home late when their children had gone to bed.
I know a man, the thing of which I said above bothered so much that he nearly resigned from his place of work. He complained that his children don’t know him as he was not playing his role toward them as a father. I discouraged him from resigning from his job, but rather guided him on how to adjust himself to utilize his weekends.
The family of that man in question is now living happily as his children now look forward to the weekends because of what their daddy will do for and with them.
On the other hand, as a woman, you really need to invest your time and energy in your husband and family.
Why does it not bother you that your husband does not eat your food at home? Some men do not eat at home because the food prepared in the house was prepared and served by the house helps. You don’t know the bonds that are created when the family eats together on a dining table.
So I counsel you to try and ensure that your family often eats together and try and invest your time by going into the kitchen to prepare delicacies for your family. I know a woman who took my advice and took it upon herself and went to catering school just for her to prepare delicacies for her family.
After she decided to prepare and serve her food to her husband and in turn, her husband started eating at home. Her husband now comes home early to eat dinner together with the family. He equally doubled the amounts he normally gives his wife for the family upkeep.
What I am trying to point out is that it does not take anything away from you to be preparing and serving food to your husband and family. Practice what I am saying and observe the truth or otherwise of the saying “that the gateway to a man’s heart is through his stomach”.
If you don’t know how to prepare delicacies, what does it prevent you from investing your time and resources to attend a catering school? Your marriage will surely take a positive turn around and you will launch your marriage to a new height.
Remember what I said, the level you enjoy your marriage is determined by the level you have invested in it. Until I come your way again, stay focused and committed to your spouse and family.
Try to invest more and more in your marriage and you will surely enjoy a greater dividend of enjoying a sweet and exciting marriage. Shalom!
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