When it comes to the issue of marriage, some ladies are deceived and played around. I used to warn ladies, that they should never give men the impression that they are desperate to marry.
The reason for that is because some men may capitalize on it, defraud and dump them like a rag.
Do you know that a man who wants to be having free $ex with you may come around and even propose marriage to you even though he knew deep within himself that he is not going to marry you at the end?
Such men, when they are ready to marry, they may accuse you falsely and as a result base on such false accusation and break the relationship thereby abandoning you for another lady.
For instance, I have this lady friend of mine by name Sandra(real name withheld). She was my course mate in the University; she was in her late thirties. One day I meet the lady in a shop with one man.
The lady introduced the man as her fiancé even though she was the person buying things for the man. Immediately, I noticed that the man was uncomfortable with my presence because the man knew me and I knew him.
A few days later, I invited the lady to my office and asked her about the man. I asked her if she had been having $ex with the man and the answer was affirmative.
She claimed that they had been $ex with the man for the past eight months they started their relationship as the man had proposed to marry her.
I asked how well she knew the man and to my surprise, she barely knew the man, only that she meet the man in a shop and the man has been coming to her.
I told her that the man was enjoying free $ex and food that he wasn’t going to marry her.
To prove to her that the man wasn’t serious and was only deceiving her, I took her to a friend of mine, a laboratory scientist who prepared a fake pregnancy test and gave to her, I told her to fake that she was pregnant.
The man came that evening and as usual, after eating the food that the lady served him, he demanded the next thing “$ex”.
The lady asked the man if he truly loves her which the man swore that he loved her. The lady also asked the man if he is serious to marry her which the man also swore that he will.
The lady then brought out the test result and gave the man requesting that he should come and see her people, that she was pregnant for him.
The man reacted angrily asking if she was a baby as to allow herself to get pregnant.
He demanded that the lady should go and terminate the pregnancy, but the lady told him that she will never terminate the pregnancy.
The man was annoyed and left in anger and that was the last she saw the man in her house. Later the lady traced the man’s village only to confirm that the man was married with two kids.
The man’s wife was in the village. If I had not helped the truth to come out, the lady would have hinged her hope of getting married to that man while the man would have continued to deceive her.
My lady, note one thing, any man who demand and encourage you to terminate a pregnancy may never marry you at the end, be wise.
(1) Ladies, before you totally surrender in bed to a man who says he wants to marry you.
You should try to know basic things about the man. Insist on knowing the village of the man.You should also find out what he is doing for a living, where he does sleep at night.
(2) You can go further by requesting the man to go and introduce you to his people as well as come for an introduction to your people. By so doing, you will know how serious and committed the man is to that relationship.
(3) As a lady, try knowing your genotype beforehand, i.e. before you get into a deep relationship with any man.
If you are “AS”, insist on knowing the genotype of the man. This is to forestall heartbreak when your marriage is about materializing only to realize that the man is “AS” as well.
(4) Above all, insist on coming to see your pastor if you are a Christian and as well insist on seeing his pastor if he is not in the same church with you.
Believe me, any man who is not genuinely interested in marrying you; he will disappear when he sees that you are trying to commit him.
And you, my man, any lady you broke her heart by raising her hope of marriage even though you knew you are not going to marry her, GOD will judge you, and someone may do so to your own daughter in the future.
Of a truth, some men are deceitful when it comes to marriage. A young man I know got paid in his own coin recently.
The young man was deep in a relationship with a lady for years and the lady had looked up for marriage.
Do you know that the man went and engaged someone else and wanted to marry the second lady secretly in another church, leaving the present church where he was working as a paid staff?
The lady he planned to abandon knew about his planned wedding but kept quiet. On the wedding day, the lady appeared in the church but sat with the congregation.
When the officiating minister asked if anybody has anything to say, the lady stood up claiming that she was pregnant for the man already as she was engaged to the man.
The minister called off the wedding when witnesses came forward saying that they knew of the man’s relationship with that lady.
The young man is yet to marry and the lady in question has vowed that she will not live to see the man match to the altar with another lady.
So my lady, be careful and don’t all a man to deceive and play you around over the issue of marriage.