“Please, Mom, leave me alone, my love is not for sale”. These were the exact words of a lady to her mother, who was urging or persuading her to abandon the love of her heart to marry another wealthy man for the sake of his money.
The lady in question stood her ground, insisting that she will never abandon the man who was the love of her heart. The man who equally loved her as to marry another man for whom she could not even confirm his love for her, and she did not have any atom of love for that man.
Yes, the above was an incident, but also a general occurrence in our society today. There are ladies who were persuaded and pushed (forced) to marry men simply for the sake of their money and not for the sake of love.
We see some ladies who were forced to marry men that are not their choice. Today, there are crises in many of such homes because the marriages were contracted on the platform of money and not for love.
That goes to answer the question, which of the two ranks first in making the right choice of a man to marry, the choice between the love of a man and love for his money (wealth)?
As a lady, you really need to answer and rank the two, for that will enable you to make the right choice. Some ladies whose love is for sale rank money first, while others rank love first. What is your own ranking or choice?
As a marriage counselor, I am here to guide you because it is my desire to see you get married and live happily with your husband. So I will make the following analysis to help you in making the right choice. There are ladies, whose problems are chosen from two to four men who had approached them and are seeking their hands in marriage.
Ladies who are short sighted, whose love is for sale, their major consideration about the men is the wealthiest, and that is the man they will choose. But for you, if your love is not for sale, you should not be short-sighted but should consider the following:
Love: Love is the bedrock and the oil that lubricates every marriage. No marriage would ever be a success without it. Love is a living thing, it takes a time to grow and will never stop growing as far as success in marriage is concerned.
My lady, love should be your first consideration, that is to say, you should ask yourself, does this man love me? And do I love him enough to spend the rest of my life with him?
Potentials: Assuming all the men love you, what is the next consideration? You should ask yourself, “who of the men would I build the future with”? There are men, who had reached the zenith of their career in life while there are some whose prospects in life are still so bright.
Ladies who are short sighted, they look at the present, what are the present situation and positions of the men. While those who are not short-sighted, look at the future prospects and potentials of the men.
There are men who are down today, who are the mockery of the society today because they had basically nothing to show but had potential, whose prospects are so bright.
These are the kinds of men who are mocked today by society, but they ended up being celebrated tomorrow. Such men, I counsel you to choose such men. Also, there are men you may marry, they are so wealthy per se, but you will live like a slave in their house, you have no say as you are not allowed to talk.
But there are men you marry; you will so much be carried along in that you are consulted almost in every issue. Your opinion counts and that opinion is always utilized, so decided that kind of man, as you need that kind of man.
In summary, never marry a man because of his money, but marry a man who you are sure loves you, who you equally love.
This is because money at times grows wings and flies away when you least expected it, and when this happens, the marriage will crash since there is no love which is the bedrock of every marriage.
In the incident cited at the beginning of this post, the lady made the right choice, by refusing and rejecting the persuasion of her mother.
She married the man of her heart, she married a pastor, and they are presently living happily. But the other man her mother was persuading her and would have pushed her to marry, that man is present without a wife, as his marriages had crashed twice.
Don’t let your love be for sale, or you will later live a life of regret. See you happily married, to your marital success. Shalom.