Recently, a frustrated lady in her early thirties emailed me. The caption of her email reads, “Men Confirms That I Am Pretty, but why do men don’t wish to marry me, yet they wish to enjoy my food and $ex with me”?
To me, I really sense agony in the lady’s soul for her to take courage to voice out her frustrations.
Please hear from the lady: Men acknowledged that I am is pretty and as well, I am a working class lady with jumbo pay in my place of work.
However, what baffles me was that the number of men that previously came my way, they all wish to enjoy my food and $ex with me, but none of them was willing to marry me.
What happen recently made me to break silence that I decided to voice out my agony and frustration. Over five years ago, a young man who was five years older came to my life.
The said young man promised to marry me, and he equally gave her an engagement ring and so moved in and started living with me. I even had a daughter for him during the period of four years we related. It happened, the young man travelled and was away for five days before he came back.
The day he came back, I went to the motor park to pick him. On our way back home, his action scared me because I nearly lost control of the car because he used his left to hand to fondle my Brest while I was driving and as well as was trying to finger me. In fact, he behaved as a man that was $ex starved for years.
When we finally got home, he grabbed me demanding to have $ex immediately. However, since I observe that my ovulation period was at its peak that day, I feared that the likely quantity of the sperm he would deposit inside me could get me to get pregnant again.
For that reason, I insisted that he must use a condom if he wished to have $ex with me that day. I actually explained to him the reason, being my fear of getting pregnant again as I was in the peak of my ovulation period.
However, he refused, insisting that he doesn’t enjoy $ex using condom. I in turn refused him saying “no condom no sex”. I made it clear that I will never again have unprotected $ex with him until our marriage was formalized.
I promised him full dozes without condom even in my father’s house if he could go and see my parents that day to indicate his interest in marrying me.
I Also, even promised to give him money he could use to pay for my dowry immediately that could formalize our marriage so that I will not be afraid to getting pregnant for him again.
My plea was because I don’t want to carry another pregnancy for him without formal marriage to him as I could be sacked from my place of work.
I thought that he accepted as he told me ok. After the argument, I phoned my doctor who asked me to come and see him. The doctor gave me some dozes of family planning pills to take for two days.
Of course that night, I showed him the pills the doctor gave me but warned that since it had a side effect that I will never use it again. It was then I agreed to and allowed him go for more than four rounds without condom before daybreak.
However, the following day and to the greatest shock of my life, an expected happened, the man called me on phone to tell me that he was no longer interested in marrying me, that I should find the keys to my house in my daughter’s school bag that he has gone to drop the keys with her.
That was the last time I ever saw or heard from him. He went further to block my numbers as not to have any contact with him. Of a truth, I was so devastated as I keep asking myself a number of questions that are begging for answers:
- Does it mean that the man’s verbal expression of his love for me was all along fake? That he never wanted to marry me in the first place but only desired my free food and $ex with me.
- Does it mean that the man was all along deceiving and playing me, eating my free food and free $ex with me?
- In fact, I was eager to know if there was anything wrong with me that men were treating me that way, enjoying my food and $ex with me but not willing to marry me.
- In other word, I wanted to know the reason men don’t wish to marry me, but they wish to enjoy my food and $ex with me? Am I only good for $ex but not for marriage?
The above was that lady’s words, which I decided to publish them without editing it, allowing some $exual offensive languages that the lady used.
On my own, I wish to say that the lady was not alone as numbers of ladies are in her shoes who men use and dump like worthless rags.
That is the reason I keep warning ladies not to show men relating with them their desperation for marriage, otherwise such men will deceive and defraud them, leaving them shattered and heartbroken in life.
As a lady, I wish to ask, “what lesson have you learned from the above real life story”? Secondly, what is your reaction to the story?
The end of part one, please keep a date with us as we will continue our discourse in part two. Shalom!.