This is an obvious fact “we all entered into marriage relationships with high hope of having a happy and exciting marriage”. But in reality, some are enjoying their marriages to the fullness, while some marriages are dragging.
Some have failed marriages while greater numbers are on the verge of collapse or failure. So I wish to ask, how has your own marriage fared? Is it exciting, boring or is it at the verge of collapse?
The point is that if couples knew what they ought to know about marriage and as well apply the correct principles that make for successful and exciting marriages, their own marriages will be successful and exciting.
However, there are many things couples are doing in their marriages that are forcing or will force their marriages to collapse.
If you analyze closely some already failed marriages, you will observe that some of these elements of what caused such marriages to collapse, if such are in your own marriage, you should take drastic actions to avoid your own marriage from failing.
The first reason is marrying a selfish partner: There are couples who entered into a marriage relationship with the aim of what to get out of the marriage and not what to give out.
Such couples, you always see them complain and accuse their spouses of doing and not doing that, they are never satisfied by the actions of their partner.
That is to say, such couples, when they fail to get enough of what they want from their marriage, they call it a quit. So if you happened to be married to a selfish partner, know for sure that your marriage may surely fail unless he or she changes his or her attitude.
The next is marrying a manipulator: There are couples, because of their selfishness and mindset of what they are expecting from their marriage, they do everything to manipulate their partners to do their biddings as to get what they want.
Some women even apply some unconventional means such as juju, charm, and spells to control their partners. Such couples, when they feel that they failed in manipulating their spouses, they call it a quit. If you happen to have married a manipulator.
the only reason the marriage is still holding is because you are still yielding to his or her manipulation. The very moment you react or refuse to be manipulated, that may signal the end of such marriage.
The next is marrying a hard to please man or woman: You should pray that you don’t get married to a man or woman who is hard to please.
Such men and women, their partners may be dying in silence, doing everything they knew or could do to please their partners, yet the more they try, the more it appears as if they have not started as he or she is never pleased.
Hard to please men and women are quick to compare their spouses with other women or men they saw in town and because they are not always satisfied with their own spouses.
They always find faults with their spouses, and sooner than later, they abandon their spouses for someone they feel are better.
Such men and women, always demand and wants to get more from their partners and the moment they feel that they are not getting much from their spouse, they call such marriage a quit. That is why marriages of hard to please men or women hardly survive.
The next is when you get married to an unmarriageable man or woman: Again pray that you don’t get married to an unmarriageable man or woman. Recently I was watching Emmanuel TV and a man was lamenting that since he got married to his wife – a princess, he has been suffering.
His wife doesn’t know how to cook or take care of the house. According to the man, the only time he enjoys a good meal is if he went to the kitchen to prepare such food even though his wife is around in the house.
Most a time, the man is the one who goes to the kitchen to wash the plates and tidy the kitchen. The truth is that the very reason that marriage has survived is because that man has the time and grace to do all these things in the house as his wife was not a marriageable material. But for how long will such a man go on with such a marriage?
Also, there are men who are unmarriageable. I read about such men in http://wholefamily.com. In that site, a woman sent this to Dr. Tobin, “I have been married nine years and we have four children three boys and one girl. I feel that my husband is very self-centered.
He is a full-time public defender who puts no effort into child care or maintaining the home. He also puts no time into our marriage”. Marrying a contentious and an angry woman: if you are a man, GOD ‘save your soul” that you don’t get married to what the Bible call a contentious and an angry woman.
See Proverbs 21:19 “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman”. Proverbs 25:24 “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house”.
It is a known fact, marriages of contentious and angry women hardly survive as men in such marriages run for their lives from such marriages or else the men will die before their time.
Marrying a partner with body odor: I pointed out the issue of body odor in one of my earlier article “Top reasons why some marriages May surely fail. (2)”. Marrying a partner with body odor, such marriages hardly survive. You can read the following to see what happened in reality:
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/chat/2996932/posts
http://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/462601/Smelly-hubby-wife-divorce-Egypt.
If you are still single and planning to marry, pray that you don’t get any of the above mentioned as a wife or husband or else your marriage will be heading for a failure in due time. However, if you happened to be in such a marriage relationships unless something drastic is done to remedy the situation; your marriage may likely hit the rock.
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