In our society today, when we first met the person we married, it seems that the whole world surrounded the relationship with that person that we are willing and ready to pay any price to get him or her to accept to marry us.
Yes, prove me wrong if this was not so with you. When the person finally accepted and agrees to marry us, we were overjoyed and most couples willingly went before God and man to make some kind of marriage vow like one of these:
“I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wedded wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife, in plenty and want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live.”
“In the name of God, I, ______, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, to love and to cherish, until we are parted by death. This is my solemn vow.”
It is highly unfortunate that some easily forget these vows which they made to each other before God and man by rushing before human law courts to end their marriages in divorce.
In reality, before the crash of most of such marriages, it is obvious that the majority of the vows were all broken leading to the collapse of such marriages. Even you, whose marriage is still intact, are you sure that there is no aspect of the marriage vows that you have broken?
Some couples, they don’t even realize when these vows were broken by them as circumstances beyond their control forced them to break these vows, some even against their wills.
In other words, are you sure that you are not responsible or that you caused your spouse to break the vows that led to the crash of your marriage? In this post, we shall be looking at how to make your marriage vows to work for you.
These marriage vows suppose to control and influence our marriage relationships. In other words, the vows should be at the back of our mind or consciousness to moderate our daily actions and the way we relate to our spouse and to others.
One of the issues that cause some couples to break their marriage vows is the neglect of the responsibilities of couples to each other and to their marriages. The first of such responsibility is the neglect of couples to satisfy each other $exually.
No wonder $exual disharmony among couples accounts for the majority of the crash of some marriages. You will agree with me when couples first got married, their marriages were blossoming and they were enjoying their $ex life to the fullest, even having $ex at an odd time and in odd places.
However, along the line, their $ex life became boring, $ex denial or starvation got introduced into their relationship. As a result of the neglect of this responsibility of satisfying each other $exually, lots of chain reactions follow.
One of the chain reaction is that one or both couples go outside their matrimonial home to get this $exual satisfaction. In other words, infidelity gets introduced into their marriage.
It is an obvious fact; infidelity betrays the trust and love in any marriage as it causes love in such marriage to get sour. Once love in a marriage gets soured, such marriages will surely crash as I have never seen a successful marriage in which there is an absence of true love.
Not only that, the neglect or abandonment of one’s responsibilities at home such as the neglect to perform one’s role at home as taking care of the basic needs at home led also to the break-in marriage vows.
Men are generally guilty of this because some men neglect or abandon their responsibility to provide for the upkeep of their homes.
For instance, I know of a woman, because her husband abandoned his responsibility of feeding his family, leaving the burden on his wife. It happened that the woman got overburdened.
One day, there was no food in the house and her children were weeping as a result of hunger. That woman was forced to go to one rich man living near her house to request financial assistance to feed her family.
Do you know that the man brought out a huge amount of money and told the woman that it is for her if she is willing to satisfy him $exually? The woman, having no option accepted and satisfied the man $exually.
After the incident, the woman got devastated for breaking her marriage vows. It is obvious; it was the action on her husband that forced her to break the marriage vow. If her husband had lived up to his responsibility, the woman would not have gone to that rich man in the first place.
In addition, there are women who are so contentious and the book of Proverbs 21:9 said something about them, “Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman also, Proverbs 21:19 “Better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and angry woman.”
It is obvious, men who got married to such women, they are always going home late. In other words, the majority of men who keep a late night, this is one of the causes.
Most of such men find it difficult to keep their marriage vows. In other words, it is often their wives that cause them to break their marriage vows when they continue to keep late at night.
What I am saying in essence in this post is that for the marriage vows that couples made to each other and before God and man to work, they must avoid what was said above.
They must strive not to break their marriage vows and also should create an enabling environment that would not cause their spouse to break their marriage vows.
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