Whenever there are crises in marriages, couples are quick to point accusing fingers at their partners. Some women, in particular, regard their marriage to some men as a mistake.
One lady whose husband has turned into a punching bag recently busted in tears saying, “If I know Johnny was like that I won’t have married him, he is such a beast”.
So my lady, to avoid shading tears like that lady above, there are certain qualities you need to consider a man before accepting his hands in marriage to avoid have I known in the future. Consideration of these qualities is for ladies who have choices of whom to marry. This is because some ladies have no choice at all, as they do grab any man that comes their way for marriage.
It is unfortunate that most ladies among other traits rank the wealth of a man as the number one, but this is not correct. This is because the number one trait in rank to consider is the character of men, as this ranked most.
Even though, there is this debate as to which of the two ranked first, the wealth of a man or his character. Some ranked the wealth of men first, while others ranked the character of a man first.
For the fact that the wealth of a man may change as wealth at times grow wings and flies away, but the character of a man may never change, therefore I consider the character of a man as the number one in ranking.
I am in no wise saying that a lazy and poor man without potential and future should be accepted simply because he has character. However, some ladies don’t place much value on the wealth of a man as long as the man has character and potential.
In other words, the second trait is the potential of a man, which far exceeds his present financial status. For instance, in my country, there was a man I know, he was a graduate, but had no meaningful employment at that time.
It happened that one lady rejected his hands in marriage, opted, and married a patent medicine dealer who was wealthy at that time. It happened that the patent medicine dealer was dealing in fake drugs, which made him wealthy.
However, with the advent of drug law enforcement agencies, his business totally collapsed that he folded his business and went and secured a job as a security guard, his line of business having been blocked.
That man who was a graduate, because he has potential, he was employed as a university graduate assistant from where he completed his master’s and doctorate degrees.
That man is currently a professor with many assets like cars and buildings, but the former patent medicine dealer has no asset as he sold his only car as he could not maintain it. That man is currently living in a one-room apartment.
What I am trying to say is that men with character and potential is suitable men to have as a husband above without potential, even though such men may be wealthy presently.
That is the reason it is the utmost desire of ladies to marry men who they know that their characters are good and had potential even if they are poor presently.
It is for that reason that you see ladies who refuse men riding very big and luxurious cars yet decide to marry men that have no car at all because they considered the character and potential of men that have no vehicle as being better.
As said above, the potential of a man who has vision comes second above the wealth (money) of men. Marrying men with potential is far better than men that have wealth because men can lose their wealth and become poor.
The wealth of men comes next, as it is the utmost desire of ladies to marry very rich or wealthy men. I don’t think that there is a lady who will desire to marry a very poor man without potential rather than a rich man.
However, ladies who get married to men only because they are rich or wealthy without considering other things later regretted their choice when such wealth grew wings and do fly away when they least expected it.
If such could happen, such marriages will be heading for crises or marriage break down because the sole reason such ladies married such men are gone.
In addition, another trait of men suitable to have as a husband are men who love and pampers their women. Believe me, most ladies prefer to marry men who love and pampers them rather than men who do not pay much attention to them or use them as a punching bag.
Ladies who are blessed with men who love and pampers them, such ladies will enjoy their marriage to the fullest as compared to men who lacked love and care.
Also, men that come from good backgrounds make good husbands, better than men that come from broken homes. A man is as good as his background. Some ladies consider the background of men very important and many prefer to get married to men that come from the well good family background.
Do you know that for men who come from broken homes, the probability that such men may end up with broken homes as well?
Another trait of men who are perfect to have as a husband are men that offer them protection: Ladies prefer to marry men who they feel more secure, rather than the men they are less secure.
In other words, ladies, for them to enjoy their marriage to the fullest, they must be assured of adequate security, especially from the men they get married as husbands.
Finally, men who are considerate of ladies’ inadequacies or shortcomings are equally a perfect trait of men perfects to have as husbands. I know a man; the lady he married did not know how to cook any food at all.
Because the man was considerate, he was the person who was cooking the food they ate the first week of their marriage. The second week, he employed a paid cook who guided his wife on how to prepare certain delicacies.
Within two months, the lady took over in preparing the foods in the house. If the man was not considerate, the marriage would have ended in crisis.
What other traits do you feel that ladies must consider in accepting the hands of a man in marriage? Please feel free to add them in a comment. Until I come your way again, I pray that God will grant you your heart desires by giving you your dream husband. Shalom.
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