It was Bishop Oyedepo who talked about the foolishness of doing one thing repeatedly yet expects to get a different result. In life, to get a different result, you must necessarily do something different.
The same thing applies to our marriage, men are expecting to see changes in their marriages yet they ate exhibiting the same character and acting repeatedly the same way.
If you must see different changes in your marriage this year, you must consciously decide to do things differently this year in your marriage.
It is obvious; some marriages are so boring that instead of love flowing among couples, there is resentment and bitterness. Couples who harbor resentment and bitterness can never enjoy each other and their marriage.
The starting point if you are to spice your marriage is to build a correct attitude toward your spouse. You should treat first your spouse the way you are expecting him/her to treat you.
If you wish that he treat you like a queen, then realize that you don’t have a queen without a king.
Particularly, there are men who complain that they wish that their wives are not treating them with the respect they deserve; my word to such men is that there can never be a king without a queen. They should, therefore, make a queen of their wives if they expect to be treated like a king.
Having settled that, couples should realize that the only way to get a different result in their marriage is to start doing things differently rather than the way they used to do them. In other words, to get different results requires a different approach.
Moreover, it is said that to get an extraordinary result, one must consciously do things extra, things beyond the ordinary. What makes the marriages of couples so boring is because they are continually doing things so ordinary in their marriage.
For instance let look at his life story, one man Kevin by name came to me with a problem that he spent more than 30minutes to beg his wife before she will accept to satisfy him $equally.
Even after she has accepted to satisfy him, he doesn’t enjoy $ex with her because she does not respond. After one week of sharing with me his problem, I called and spent time with the wife in which I lectured her on what to do to enjoy her marriage.
That faithful night, the husband came home around 8 pm tired and angry and went straight to the bedroom where he lay down. The woman went to the bedroom, removed the man’s shoes and clothes and insisted that the man should go to a bath.
After the man took his bath, the woman went and took her own and came to the bedroom with a transparent nightgown that was displaying her pulpit hair that the man was seeing. The woman stood before him to ask him if she should bring his food to the bedroom.
The man could not answer a word but instead, he stood up and pulled the wife to himself and started caressing her. From that, he made love to her without any objection from the wife and that night was something else according to the man.
Thereafter making love to her, he went to the ding to eat his dinner which the wife joined him to eat. They went to bed after and that night, around 2.00 am, the man went to ease himself and upon coming back, he put the light and observed that the wife was still putting on the transparent nightgown.
The man touched her, fearing that she will react but the wife relaxed and positioned herself for him. According to the man, his lovemaking that night and the early morning was so enjoyable since he got married.
The following day, the woman ran to my office, so excited. Guess what, she showed me an alert of a huge amount of money the husband transferred to her account saying that she should use the money for her shopping. From that night till today, the couple is enjoying their marriage ever.
What we are to learn from the above story is that a change of attitude of that lady about satisfying her husband spiced up her marriage that today, they are enjoying every aspect of their marriage to the fullness.
End of part one, look forward to part two, you will enjoy it.
