This is an obvious fact, “we all entered into marriage relationships with high hope of having a happy and exciting marriage”. But in reality, some are enjoying their marriages to the fullest, while some other marriages are dragging; some have failed marriages while greater numbers are on the verge of collapse.
So I wish to ask, how has your own marriage fared? Is it exciting, boring, or on the verge of failing or collapsing? The point is that if couples knew what they ought to know about marriage and as well as apply the correct principles that make for successful and exciting marriages.
Their own marriages will be successful and exciting. However, there are many things couples are doing in their marriages that will surely force their marriages to collapse.
If you analyze closely some already failed marriages, you will observe that some of these elements caused such marriages to collapse. If such is in your own marriage, you should take drastic actions to avoid your own marriage from failing.
The first reason is to marry a selfish marriage partner: There are couples who entered into a marriage relationship with the aim of what to get out of the marriage and not what to give out. For such couples, you always see them complain and accuse their spouses of doing and not doing that, they are never satisfied with the actions of their partners.
That is to say, such couples, when they fail to get enough of what they want from their marriage, they call it a quit. So if you happened to be married to a selfish partner, know for sure that your marriage may surely fail unless he or she changes his or her attitude.
The next is marrying a manipulator: There are couples, because of their selfishness and mindset of what they are expecting from their marriage, who do everything to manipulate their partners to do their bidding to get what they want. Some women even apply certain unconventional means, such as juju, charm, and spells to control their partners.
For such couples, when they feel that they failed in manipulating their spouses, they call it a quit. If you happen to have married a manipulator, the only reason the marriage is still holding is that you are still yielding to his or her manipulations. The very moment some couples react or refuse to be manipulated may signal the end of such marriages.
The next is marrying hard to please men or women: You should pray that you don’t get married to a man or woman who is hard to please. Such men and women, their partners, may be suffering in silence, doing everything they knew or could do to please their partners. But the more they try, the more it appears as if they have not started, as he or she is never pleased.
Hard to please men and women are quick to compare their spouses with other women or men they saw in town because they are not always satisfied with their own spouses. They always find faults with their spouses, and sooner than later, they abandon their spouses for someone they feel is better.
Such men and women, always demand and want to get more from their partners and the moment they feel that they are not getting much from their spouse, they call such marriage a quit. That is why marriages of hard to please men or women hardly survive.
The next is when you get married to unmarriageable men or women: Again, pray that you don’t get married to an unmarriageable man or woman. Some time ago, I was watching Emmanuel TV and a man was lamenting that since he got married to his wife – a princess, he has been suffering.
According to the man, the only time he enjoys a good meal is if he went to the kitchen to prepare such food even though his wife is around in the house. The reason is that his wife doesn’t know how to cook or take care of the house.
Most of the time, the man is the one who goes to the kitchen to wash the plates and tidy the kitchen. The truth is that the very reason that marriage has survived is that that man has the time and grace to do all these things in the house, as his wife is an unmarriageable material. But for how long will such a man continues with such a marriage?
Next is marrying a contentious and an angry woman: If you are a man, GOD ‘save your soul” that you don’t get married to what the Bible calls a contentious and an angry woman. As the book of Proverbs 21:19 puts it, “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman”.
Also, Proverbs 25:24 says, “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house”. It is a known fact, that marriages of contentious and angry women hardly survive as men in such marriages run for their lives from such marriages, or else men in such marriages will die before their time.
Marrying a partner with body odor: I pointed out the issue of body odor in one of my earlier articles, captioned, “Top reasons why some marriages May surely fail”. Marrying a partner with body odor, such marriages hardly survive. You can read the following to see what happened in reality:
If you are still single and planning to marry, pray that you don’t get married to any of the above-mentioned as a wife or husband, or else your marriage will be heading for a failure in due time.
However, if you happened to be in such a marriage relationship unless something drastic is done to remedy the situation, your marriage may likely hit the rock. Shalom!