In today’s world, it is the utmost heart desires of some ladies to get married and settle down. For that reason, some ladies got frustrated in life after certain age and men are not forth coming for marriage.
Some ladies in an attempt to seek for attention as to get men to marry them, they have restored to doing some unimaginable things. Some of those things, instead of fetching the ladies husbands, rather are making them to get more frustrated.
As a marriage counselor, I wish to boldly say that some ladies, even though it is their hearts desire to get married, but they are not ready or prepared for marriage.
It is one thing to desire to marry and another thing is to be prepared and ready for marriage. As it is with ladies, it is equally so with men.
I am saying so because the majority of those ladies who are heartbroken are those who are used and dumped by men who not ready for marriage.
You know such men by their changing ladies as if they were changing clothes. As said, some ladies even though they desire to marry but in actually sense, they are not prepared and ready for marriage.
Ladies who are prepared and ready for marriage, they are reserved, and they neither display their nakedness on social media nor do they sleep around with old men.
The Majority of those ladies who are ready and prepared for marriage, they are mindful of what they wear or their dressing and as well consider marriage first before accepting men they go out on date with.
So when you see ladies who are so proud going out on date with sugar daddies, men who are in position to be their grandfathers and are quick to jump to bed with them, such ladies are never ready or prepared for marriage.
Ladies who are ready and prepared for marriage, ladies who will equally sustain their marriage if they get married, such ladies know the basic things expected of them assuming they get married.
For instance, a man once abandoned his wife in one of the states in the East and fled to Lagos two months after their marriage.
What happened was that the man, a businessman but even after his marriage, his was still the person who goes to the market to buy ingredients any time they are to prepare soup or stew.
The other issue was that his toilet was a mess a few days after he got married. And upon confronting his new wife, she boldly told him that she was his wife not his housemaid, in other words that the man should get a housemaid to be doing those duties.
The two months they were married before he abandoned the lady and fled, he was the person cooking soup and washing the toilet, including scrupling the flour of his living room.
It is not that cooking soup and washing the toilet is out of place for a husband, but it is the basic duties of his wife. For instance, I wanted to impress my wife when we married newly.
What happened was that one day, while she was busy in the kitchen I went and washed the toilet. After, she equally went to wash the toilet again even though I told her that the toilet was clean that I had already washed it.
That day my wife thanked me but requested that I should not waste my time washing the toilet any other day while she was around, that I could only do that only if she was not around.
I forgot to tell you that I used to wash my toilet before I got married but after my wife moved in and washed the toilet for the first time, it became super clean that I thought that she installed a new toilet.
What I am trying to bring out is that some men wish to confirm that ladies they wish to marry knew how to cook and do basic chores before they will ask for their hands in marriage.
To this end, as a lady, you must resolve within yourself and prove to men that you are ready and prepared for marriage. That will surely influence your dressing and lifestyle.
Please as a lady, what proves that you are ready and prepared for marriage is your ability to prove that you are a real help meet for a man.
Once a man sees and confirm that you are really a worthy help meet for him, he will surely come for you for marriage.
Finally, my lady, it is not that you are not desirous of getting marriage, equally prove to men that you are ready and prepared for marriage. Shalom!