This is the second and final part of our discussions on the topic, “My Lady, Desire To Marry, Men Needs Proof That You Are Marriageable And Worthy To Be Married”. Please GO HERE to read the part one if you have not read it for a better understanding.
In part one, we emphasized on the need to prove to men that you are marriageable and worthy of marriage. This is because a man needs to be convinced or assured that you are marriageable and best for him.
Yes and of course, this is a fact as any man before he can open his mouth to tell you that he wish to spend the rest of his life with you in marriage and mean it, he might have been convinced that you are the best for him.
This is so and as a lady; you must first and foremost convince yourself that you are what you claim to be before a man can be convinced himself about you.
First and foremost, you must start by placing value on yourself. It is the value you placed on yourself that men actually confirms whether true or not or disregard such value.
However and in reality, this is not so as the problem with the majority of ladies is that they failed to place any value on themselves.
Some other ladies, they valued themselves so low that they try to use other means necessary to make up the short fall. For that reason you see so many of them posing almost naked on social media, exposing some sensitive parts of their bodies just to seek for attention.
Also, these kind ladies, you need to pity them because the majority of them never knew what they want in life. What they actually need are husbands but rather they are doing things that fetches them popularity.
Please hear and hear it well, social media popularity can never fetch you a husband. That is the reason you see many of them get so frustrated in life because they feel that their social media popularity should fetch them husbands.
We should also realize that life is not all that it seems to be. A greater number of social media followers may be hailing the naked pictures you are posting for them on the net while as the real men and potential husbands feel ashamed of you to see such pictures.
In other words, as a lady that desires to get married, realize that every action and dressing of yours must necessarily be to improve your value and not to reduce it.
Still talking about ladies not placing any value on themselves, or valuing themselves so low, such ladies, you see them going to do one plastic surgery or the other. That is to say, the majority of ladies, their problem is what is called identity crises.
Their reason is for them to look like somebody else. For instance, one lady in my city got blinded sometime ago, a day to her wedding and got abandoned by her husband to be.
What happened was that the lady went to beautify herself for her wedding trying to make her eyelids to look like a popular Nolly wood actress Ini Edo.
It happened that the chemical being used splashed on her eyes and blinded her. The man who would have married her, have to abandon her when he realized that she had become blind saying that her eyelids were not like Ini Edo before he accepted to marry her.
That is to say, ladies who go to do plastic surgery to change the shape of their look are doing so because they valued their original look below average.
The same applies to ladies who jump to bed with any man that says hi, to them, thinking that one of the men they rock on bed will accept to marry them.
Please realize, that is far from the truth because it is a proven fact, any man that saw your nakedness or conquers you on bed before deciding marriage may likely go to value you so low.
On the contrary, a man who tried to get you on bed, who used every available means without success is likely to respect and value you high.
I remember sharing this story a number of times, the story was about a lady who was pleading with her friend to give her Nokia touch phone to her to be using till she buys another phone, since her college had got a new smartphone.
Unknown to her, one of the men that heard her begging her college for a phone was the CEO of the company she was working. That CEO who heard her begging for a phone went and bought a Black Berry phone for her.
However, it happened, the following day, the man called her on phone requesting her to come and meet him in one nearby hotel.
The lady vehemently refused to go and meet him in a hotel, but rather removed her sim card from the Black Berry phone and repackaged it back for him saying that she cannot sell her virtue for a Black Berry phone.
The man out of anger collected back the phone from her. However, the next three months, the man flew back to the country only to request the same lady to marry him.
They lady accepted on the condition that he will not see her pant until he had paid her bride price which the man accepted. This is a real life story.
To cut the long story short is that the two got married and the man took her abroad with him. This story is to show you that any lady that placed value on herself, she will be proud of herself and will never jump to bed with a man not committed to marrying her.
In summary, as a lady, please realize that men are waiting for your proof that you are what you claim to be. Ladies who are marriageable and worthy of marriage are proud of themselves, they never seek for attention or advertise themselves.
Which one are you? Please go ahead to prove to men that you are worthy to be married and as well marriageable. Shalom!