What actually prevents some ladies from getting married are not far- fetched as the problem with some ladies is that they desire to marry, yet they ignore certain or very important things that are necessary for men to get their hands in marriage.
Yes, there is no man desiring to marry who doesn’t have at the back of his mind the qualities of a woman he desires to marry as a wife. For that reason, such a man will always be looking out to see if such qualities exist in every lady he came in contact or relates with.
Some ladies get frustrated in life after relating with men for years only to wake up one day and discover that the men had dumped them and married another ladies.
For that reason, some ladies are so bitter against men because they feel that they are used and dumped but fail to ask themselves if they met up with the quality of a lady that the man desires to spend the rest of his life.
Such ladies, they never reflect and ask themselves the reason or why should men use and dump them. The major reason men use and dump ladies is that such men had realized or discovered that such ladies did not possess the qualities they are looking for in women they wish to marry.
It is not only getting married in the first place, some ladies eventually get married but men who married them soon abandon them for another woman.
Such men took such action because they realized that the women they married did not possess the qualities they thought they possessed.
In other words, some of the marriages that crashed very early are the result of one partner coming to realize that the man or woman he married did not possess the qualities he or she thought their partner possessed.
Having said that, as a lady, all that is required of you to get the hands of a man to marry is your success in proving or convincing the man that you marriageable and possesses the qualities of a lady that man desires to marry.
To that end, as a lady, you have to ask and answer to yourself a number of questions. First, you have to put yourself in the shoes of men and ask yourself,” What qualities do men actually want in ladies they desire to marry”?
Secondly, such qualities that men desire to see in women they wish to marry, do I truly possess such qualities?. One thing is been in possession of such qualities and another is been able to convince men that you possess such qualities.
May I give one personal secret from my own perceptive, when I was looking for a lady to marry, the number one thing I wanted to see was a responsible and organized lady.
For that reason, I related and dismissed some ladies for one reason or the other. One thing that moved me to pick interest in the lady I eventually married was that both retired director and serving directors in the organization I met her was calling her their daughter.
In fact, I picked offense one day I was with the director of that organization, trying to fix something in her office when that lady that later to become my wife, open the door but realizing that I was with the director wanted to go out.
However, the director seeing her, she called her, “my daughter comes in”. When she came in, the director asked her to check and collect a mineral in the fridge.
What made me to pick offense was that the director did not bother to offer me drink but offered her. However, I consoled myself thinking that she was the director’s biological daughter.
However, I was shocked when I asked my co-worker about her, and she warned me to be careful about her if I don’t want to incur the wrath of the director because the director treats her as if she was her biological daughter.
After that, I invited the lady to my office to interview her. I was more shocked to discover that she was the person sponsoring herself in the university with her meager salary.
All these convinced me that she possessed to exert qualities I needed in a wife and I wasted no time in getting her hands in marriage, and I am glad I did.
Coming back to the subject of our discussion, I wish to ask you, “What do men say you are as a single lady”? In other words, what marriageable qualities do you actually possess that men can testify about you?
What I am trying to say is that marriage is for a lifetime, not contract marriage we are seeing today. That is to say a man must be convinced that you are the right person for him before he can ask for your hands in marriage.
As a lady, I wish that you realize that no man in his right senses will accept to marry a lady he considered to be irresponsible. So will you actually prove to men that you are a responsible lady?
This calls for a sober reflection because some ladies betray their true self by following irresponsible ladies to dress irresponsible. For that reason, men end up seeing them equally irresponsible ladies.
For instance, irresponsible ladies always dress to show men the shape of their breasts or cleavages. Once you dress the same way, men will equally see you as irresponsible.
Secondly, men actually prove how responsible you are as a lady by how easy you get conquered in bed. Ladies who are easily conquered on bed, men see them as very cheap article.
A man who sees you as a cheap article will be reluctant to ask for your hands in marriage. This is a lesson for ladies who think that they could get a man to marry her by easily jumping into bed with any man.
We will end the first part here. We will continue our discourse on the topic next in part two. So keep a date with us. Shalom!