Some ladies, one major reason why they are still single is that, according to some of them, they are still searching and had not found men to marry them.
However, the issue is that ladies who are searching for husbands, may fail to find one because they are not the ones to search for men, instead, it is men that should search for them.
In other words, as a lady, it is not your role or responsibility to search for a man to marry you, rather it is the role of a man.
Your only role or responsibility is to package and position yourself, as to make yourself available and easy for men to find you.
Packaging yourself as a lady is of paramount importance, but here, I don’t need to talk much about the issue of packaging as I have written two articles on the packaging, so try to read them for a better understanding.
‘What do I do, you may ask to make myself available and suitable for men to find me for marriage”?
First, for men to easily find you for marriage, you should know what men are looking for actually in the life of the women they want to marry.
For men to desire to marry you as a lady, your greatest asset is your character. So, you really need to fine-tune your character because your character says much about you.
Of a truth, your beauty notwithstanding, if your character is questionable or there is nothing to write home ab, it may be hard for men to accept you for a wife because your total personality will become questionable as well. Once men give a pass mark to your character, you are on the right track for men to desire to marry you.
Secondly, I wish to emphasize it, if you want men to locate you for marriage, you should ensure that you are free and don’t have the problem of the spirit husband because this issue of spirit husband is responsible or is what is preventing so many ladies from getting married.
That is to say that your character may be wonderful, as well, you may be beautiful to behold and highly responsible with A nice family background. If you have an issue with spirit husband, men will run away from seeking your hands in marriage.
Some ladies are working in a responsible organization with a nice pay package yet men are not interested in marrying them because the spirit husbands clothe them with negative images and will not allow their true image or identity to be revealed.
For instance, a lady once emailed me with her picture with the following question, “Princevinco am I not beautiful enough, why are men not interested in marrying me?”
I was blunt in my answer to her as I asked her whether she is sure that she is marriageable. To cut the long story short, after chatting with her on Facebook, I referred her for deliverance.
Since the lady was residing in the Warri Delta State of Nigeria, I referred her to visit Christ mercy city Warri. To the glory of God, after her deliverance, two men showed up, and she got married to one of them within six months.
Thirdly, you need to prove to men that you are an asset and a responsible Lady. That is, you should be responsible for all you do, acting responsibly, dressing responsible, and talking responsibly.
For instance, recently, a lady in her thirties had a serious physical fight with a bus conductor over ten naira balance.
The lady in question came down from a bus and demanded her ten naira balance, but the bus conductor argued that he has no 10 naira balance to give her.
Before the conductor could finish speaking, the lady held and tore his shirt, the conductor responded by equally tearing her own gown including her bra.
The incident created a big scene at that bus stop. It was another woman, a passerby who rushed and removed one of the wrappers she was trying and covered the lady after the boy was held.
Now assuming that you are a man that is searching for a wife, will you approach such lady for a wife after seeing her fight? In other words, to fight over the issue of ten naira was an act of irresponsibility on the part of that lady.
Another area you show how responsible or irresponsible you are is in your dressing. Some ladies dress so shabbily while some dress with outrageous makeup. You should be reminded that the way you dress is the way you are addressed
You should know that you’re clothing or the type of wear you put on speaks much about your person. So you need to dress moderately, dress responsibly and not like a prostitute which you are not. Remember responsible men are looking for responsible ladies to marry.
Next, you need to be conscious of your actions on the first date. Many of the actions of the man on the first date is but a test. It is on the first date that you prove to the man the quality of a person you are made up of.
It is highly unfortunate that some ladies fail their tests on their first date. There is this argument on whether it is right or wrong to go to bed with a man on the first date.
I am not here to tell you whether it is right or wrong, Let your conscience be your guide. GOD condemns any se*ual relation that is not with husband and wife.
However, I keep saying it that jumping to bed with a man on the first date, you prove that you are nothing but a cheap article to that man who conquers you in bed easily, how much more on the first date.
In other words, a man accesses your worth on the first date and unless you pass his assessment, he may never ask for your hands in marriage. You would only be good for friendship but not for marriage.
Moreover, as a lady, you should never throw yourself at any man. Of a truth, most ladies are fond of that because most a time, after men asked them out for first and second dates, the next thing is that some ladies carry their bags to spend a weekend in the man’s house or even pack and start living with the man. To do that, such men will never make up their mind about marrying you easily.
Finally, you need to be true to yourself and maintain your identity: In other words, be original and not copy, carbon copy. Of a truth, most ladies are not proud of whom they are.
The result is that they end up destroying their personal identity or personality while trying to be like somebody else. Remember that you are a unique person, so try to maintain that uniqueness and let men know you for whom you are.
I pray that men, that a man will find you soon for marriage. It is not over until it is over.