In our society today, what some ladies who are looking up to get men to accept to marry them fail to understand is that men look beyond the outward appearance to the hidden person of the heart.
What that means is that until a man comes in contact with that hidden person of the heart which is the real you, and he is satisfied with whom you are, he cannot accept to marry you.
Some ladies thought that the nutty things they are doing on social media will fetch them husbands but to no avail. As a result, some ladies are so frustrated in life after certain age and no man is showing up for marriage.
What I am trying to point out in reality is that your character that defines who you are, and you manifest who you are by your daily actions and utterances.
It is your character that convinces a man of the real you irrespective of your beauty, make up or outward appearance while as some ladies feels that men will come to them for marriage as a result of their outward appearance or make up.
In addition, some ladies are like chameleon as they appear so gentle and cute outside but are scorpion inside and some uses heavy make up to hide or cover their real person.
That goes to confirm what King Solomon said in Proverbs 11:22 which say, “As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a lovely woman who lacks discretion”.
Yes, there are so many beautiful ladies in our society today who are still single because they lack character. For that reason, you see some of them projecting their beauty or physical appearance.
What these ladies forget is that real men are not looking for the outward appearance or physical beauty in ladies they wish to marry.
Rather, they are looking for women of wisdom and character which is synonymous as virtuous women and Proverbs 12:4 says, “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Also, Proverbs 31:10 says, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies”. As a man, I know what it means to marry a virtuous woman because I married one.
From my many years of counselling experience, I have come to realize that one of the most things that men cherish in marriage is to enjoy relative peace at home with their wife after a day’s work.
To this end, men are choosy about women they wish to marry as mostly they look for women that would give them peace. The book of Proverbs 14:1 says, “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands”.
Moreover, the book of Proverbs 21:9 says, “Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman”.
Also, Proverbs 25:24 repeated it, “It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than in a house shared with a contentious woman.
What all these passages are trying to confirm is that your real person manifest itself by your actions and utterances, your makeup and outward appearance no withstanding. It is who you are that a man will accept or rejects to marry.
For instance, one young man visited Nigeria sometime ago from America. The purpose of his visiting Nigeria was to choose a bride he will marry.
It happened that the man was having a stomach upset that day at the time his elder sister came to pick him from the airport. Indecently, that day was Sunday morning and the man insisted that he want to go to church as he wanted the pastor to pray for him.
The church service was still on when the man vomited. All the people including ladies around him vacated and changed the location of their seat except one lady who went and brought a packer and mop to clean the mess.
After service, the elder sister of the man grabbed the ladies bag and insisted that she follow her to her car. Eventually she offered to drop the lady in her house. As well, she scheduled that the lady should see her in the evening that day.
When the lady arrived in her house that evening, she was shocked to see the man that vomited in the church sitting in her house. Again, she had a greater shock when the man brought a ring and knelt down to propose to the lady.
The lady protested that she did not know the man previously and as such did not know what to say. For that reason, the lady insisted that they should go and see their pastor.
When they arrived at the church, the pastor was excited to see the young man. When the pastor came to know the purpose of their visit, he acknowledged that he used to see the lady in church but did not know her much.
To cut the long story short, that was the beginning of the relationship between the lady and the man. Eventually, the two got married and are today living happily with children in America.
My lady, what I am trying to point out is that your action and utterances proves you’re your real person. It is what is inside that manifests outside.
Like the lady in our story, her action proved what she was made up of and that immediately convinced a man that she was homely and marriageable. It is that that convinced the man, who insisted on getting her as a wife.
Finally, please be assured that the real you are what men are looking for not your beauty, makeup or outward appearance. The book of 1 Peter 3:3-4 says, “Do not let your adornment be merely outward–arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel–
Rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
Till I come your way again, remain marriageable. Shalom!