Of a truth, it is the utmost heart’s desire of most ladies to get married and settle down with the man of their dream. However, most ladies lacks the basic knowledge of the steps or what to do to actualize their desire.
From my experience and interaction/counselings some ladies are living a life of misery and frustration when they reach a certain age and are still single, if no man is asking for their hands in marriage.
My lady, to avoid such a life of misery and frustration, you need to take drastic steps to actualize your heart’s desire to get a man of your choice to marry you if it is your heart’s desire to marry.
In reality and most a time, you see two ladies fighting over one man, accusing each other of trying to snatch their man, which is an evidence that they are getting frustrated over the issue of marriage.
As a lady, if it is therefore your heart’s desire to actualize your marriage, then I want to share with you a few basic things that must be in place that will get men to struggle to get your hands in marriage.
In the first place, before you can actualize your desire to get married, a man must have seen you and feel convinced that you are marriageable and best for him and therefore desire and request for your hands in marriage.
That is to say that you must first be attracted to a man before he can desires to marry you. To get attracted to a man in the first place, the following must be in place or you must take the following steps.
The first of such step is to show a proven evidence that you are prepared, ready and willing to get married. You do so by the lifestyle you are living. The step may require positively changing or improving your lifestyle.
That is to say that you need to ask yourself, “is my lifestyle acceptable to potential husbands”? For instance, you can’t live and dress like a prostitute and expect quality men to seek for your hands in marriage.
Talking about your lifestyle, that leads us to the next step which is correct packaging of yourself. In other words, before you get attracted to a man, you must package yourself correctly and in such a way as to make a man to admire and desire your hands in marriage.
So, poor packaging is what had prevented some ladies not to be noticed or attracted to men. You can’t be dressing in rags or as an old woman/village girl and expect a man, intellectuals to seek for your hands in marriage.
Moreover, before a potential husband will desire and seek for your hands in marriage, he must be convinced that you are marriageable and organized.
There are ladies, the reason men don’t feel comfortable to seek for their hands in marriage is because they are so disorganized in life. There are ladies you so admire, but when you visit them and see the place they are living, how scattered they are, you feel disappointed.
There are also ladies, their own problem is that they don’t know how to cook or that they are lazy going to the kitchen to cook. If you are such a lady, it will do you good to go to a catering school to learn how to cook. Once men are convinced that you are organized and knows how to cook, they will come to you for marriage.
Moreover, I wish to point out that as a lady, you need to be yourself in any relationship. Men must see you and relate to you for who you are. This is because some ladies live a false or fake lifestyle.
Next step also is that you need to prove to men that you are an asset and not a liability. With the situation of the economy, men generally prefer to marry ladies who can contribute to building their family.
One thing I want you to conscious of is that there is no man who has build his family and reputation that will allow you to snatch him from his wife and family.
To this end, you must be careful how you relate with married men. For instance, I was highly disappointed that Linda Ikeji who had been preaching chastity before marriage gave birth out of wedlock.
Worst still is that she named a married man as the father of her baby, which the man seem to deny because even if the man is the father, he will not want to allow that to destroy his reputation and already built family.
What I am trying to say is that you should not destroy your marital destiny y dating married men who already have a family. Don’t think of snatching another woman’s husband because it won’t work and you may end up regretting yourself.
Above all, you must take steps to address your character by fine tuning your character. You need to fine tune your character to ensure that there is nothing is repugnant or repulsive about your character. You should know that your actions speak volumes about your character.