Today in our society and in real life, the choice of whom to marry is one of the up vile tasks of young men and women who are desiring to marry..
In reality, some people, after few years of their marriage, they look back to appreciate and thank God for the man or woman they married as husband or wife.
However, some other people look back with tears of regret as some claim that they made mistakes in the men or women they got married to.
Like one lady busted in tears saying, “My marriage to Mathew was a mistake, if I have known that he was like that, I won’t have married him”
Considering the issue of marriage, the crucial question I wish to ask you as a lady is, “assuming you have the choice to make of the man to chosen among men what should influence your choice?
This question is very important that you reflect on it and answer the question because some ladies don’t even know what they want in life regarding their marital life.
As a result, some ladies are losing out because they don’t know what they want in life with respect to the issue of their marital life.
This calls for the reason some ladies prefer to relate or date older men or sugar daddies, men of the age of their grandfathers, despising younger men and potential husbands because they feel that young men have not enough money.
Some other ladies, they are still single today because they lost out after they despised and rejected potential husbands that came their way years ago.
Some ladies, they even ended up marrying men that are far less in quality of men they earlier rejected who requested for their hands in marriage.
The issue of marriage is a matter of personal choice. That is why you should be convinced or persuaded of the kind of man you will accept as your husband.
One other unfortunate issue is that some ladies accept and got married to men they hardly know. That is why getting married to men they met on face book is questionable.
This post is about the story of one lady who rejected the hands of a wealthy man in marriage; her reason was that the man was living in a boys quarter apartment.
The man in question was a big time trader at Onitsha market, (a market in Eastern part of Nigeria).The man was not an ordinary trader but also an importer.
By the time this incident happened the man was 32 years old. The man in question was in wealth, being in command of millions of Naira.
The man has a duplex he built where he was living but the mother refused him building a house in the village because she wanted him to marry first.
Incidentally, the man wanted to prove the love of the person he wanted to marry asked his boys who were living in his boy’s quarter to park their things and come and sleep in the main building as he wanted to make use of the Boys Quarters.
The man didn’t go with his jeep to the village but chartered a taxi who took him to the village to pick the lady she proposed to marry for her to come and visit him.
When they arrived his home, the man took her to the Boys Quarters, pretending to be living in the Boys Quarters. The following day, he gave the lady money to go back to the village.
That lady in question changed her mind and refused going ahead with the marriage; her reason was that the man was living in a Boys Quarters and that she will not marry a man living in a Boys Quarters.
The man decided to marry another lady from the same village who he equally tested like the first lady. In fact, he openly asked the second lady if she was willing to live with him in a Boys Quarters which the lady accepted.
The summary of the story was that they later married to a very low keyed traditional marriage ceremony and wedding. After their wedding, the lady almost fainted when they came back and retired to the main building instead of the Boys Quarters.
What happen next was that while the first lady which the man would have married was still mocking that the other lady married a man living in a Boys Quarters, the man sent his wife to the village to supervise his building construction.
The man sent her home with a driver and his jeep to be using while in the village. When the lady arrived to the village, the foundation of the building was done and the building construction commenced.
It happened that the parents the first lady learned that their daughter had earlier rejected the hand of that man in marriage; they chased her out from their house.
This example is the story of how the lady lost out of a very good marriage she would have entered. Some other ladies are like her, who doesn’t know what they actually want from men they want to marry.
To this end, the crucial question you still need to answer as a lady is “what should be the main influence of the choice of a man you wish to choose as your husband?