In our society, most of the causes of divorce or the crash of marriages started with some minor frictions or conflicts. It is the inability to positively manage or handle these frictions or conflicts that led to marriage crash.
In reality, in our society, many marriages are engulfed in frictions or conflicts and crises. However, some of these conflicts (frictions) are man made that it could be avoided if the couples involved know what to do and are doing them. Some of the causes of these frictions are.
Perhaps one of the major causes of conflicts or frictions in marriage is infidelity. When one of the parties gets involved in extramarital affairs, the other party feels hurt and betrayed.
As a result, the Love becomes poisoned and if this matter is not resolved, the marriage relationships will end up collapsing.
The Cure for infidelity is total repentance of the offending party as well as total forgiveness by the offended party. But when the person involved keeps on getting involved, the other party gets fed up and may refuse to forgive.
The second most cause of frictions or conflicts or crises in marriage is $exual maladjustment. $exual maladjustment results from inability or neglect to satisfy each other $exually. Of a truth, this has caused and still causing conflicts or frictions among couples.
It is highly unfortunate that this issue of $ex that GOD made to be a source of joy and happiness in marriage should bring friction or conflicts in marriages? It is pertinent to say that this issue $exual maladjustment has caused and is still causing divorce among couples.
Neglecting one’s role and responsibilities at home is another major cause of friction in marriages: When one or both couples fail to live up to their role and responsibilities at home, frictions are bound to be the result. For instance, when a man neglects the responsibility of taking care of the family, leaving that responsibility for the woman.
As the man neglects his role and responsibility, leaving it for the woman, with time, there will be frictions because the time may come when the man may lose control of the family.
Of a truth, there are families that men don’t have any say again because it is the woman that takes care of the family.
Also, some women neglect their role and responsibilities of organizing the feeding of their family. Of a truth, if you come to some families, this role and responsibility are left in the hands of the house helps.
With time, some men will begin to have unwarranted affection for the house helps because she is the one that the man sees all the time that bring food for him.
Woman, don’t neglect this role and responsibility and let your family feel your impact by going to the kitchen to cook for your husband and family from time to time.
Above all, love, the lubricating oil of every marriage, when it is absent, friction in marriages is bound to take place. When the love between couples get soured or is totally absent, frictions are bound to take place.
So couples should never do things that could cause the love for each other to get soured, but rather they should try to do things that could cause the growth of their love for each other.
Moreover, some couples are so selfish, as such; their marriages are engulfed in crises and frictions. Some couples are in a marriage relationship solely on what to grab and not what to give.
They are not bothered, whether their partner is receiving something from the relationship about whether their partner is happy or fulfilled or not.
Marriage relationship should be a give and take affair, but when one party is only giving but not receiving, the time may come when the person that is giving always may get fed up and stop. When such happens, there may be friction.
Absence of the fruits of the womb (child or children) also causes frictions or conflicts in marriage: There are couples who are married for years without any fruit of the womb to show.
As a result, there are frictions in various quarters as there are accusations and counter accusations of who is responsible and who is not responsible.
Some men end up leaving their wife or sacking their wives as a result and in African and other Muslim world, some men end up marrying two wives.
It is pertinent to point out that couples who were able to positively or constructively manage the conflicts that arose between them, they adjust to each other far better than couples who fail to adjust or have adjustment. What else are the major causes of conflicts in marriage?
If couples would learn to manage conflicts very, they will end up enjoying sweet and evergreen marriage.