In part one; we looked at some recipes for enjoying a successful and exciting marriage. We shall continue our discourse on the subject matter by looking at more of the recipes.
One other recipe that we cannot fail to mention is building a harmonious $exual adjustments. Some couples, what is causing crises in their marriage is $exual maladjustment or disharmony.
Couples who wish to enjoy their marriage to the fullest, they must be ready and willing to satisfy the $exual needs of their spouses. Some couples, they claim that they are $exually starved in their marriage.
Some other couples claim that their partners are over-demanding $exually while some others claim that they are not $exually satisfied by their partner or that their partner is not satisfied $exually. I call the above situation $exual maladjustment or disharmony
To this end, couples who wish to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, they must never joke with this recipe. This is because $exual maladjustment is grievous because it had crashed and is still some marriages.
One peculiar thing about $exual maladjustment is that it brings about chain reactions such as extramarital affairs or infidelity.
Please, if you observe that you have $exual maladjustment or disharmony, the solution is never to blame or quarrel with your partner nor seek satisfaction outside your marriage.
Rather, and as said, it is not a time to lay blame on one another about who is responsible or who is not responsible. The solution is to come together as a couple, discuss and pinpoint the problem.
Problems once mutually pinpointed are half solved. Couples who genuinely pinpointed the cause of their $exual disharmony or maladjustments, the next step is to aggressively pray about it and as well as seek a solution to the problems identified by a marriage counselor.
One other recipe we shall look at is “cleaving to each other as to become one flesh”. The Bible expects couples to cleave to each other as to be one flesh.
As a man, unless you cleave to your wife you can never become one flesh with her. Men who are not one flesh with their wife, their marriage cannot survive. To cleave means to be in bond with each other in love and this bond is created by their intimacy.
But where there is no intimacy in a marriage, there can never be a bond of love, and where there is an absence of this bond and intimacy, love for each other can never grow but rather will atrophy and die/sour.
This leads us to the next recipe which is building intimacy in marriage relationships. Some men in particular claim that they are so busy that they have no time to create or build intimacy with their wife and family.
Lack of intimacy was the very mistake some men are making. It was the very mistake that one man of God Pastor Chris made that crashed his marriage. Pastor Chris allowed his wife to live apart from him for years.
For instance, Pastor Chris was living in South Africa while his wife was living in the UK for close to 20 years.
As said, it is an intimacy that makes love for each other to grow, which is necessary for any marriage to survive. When love in a marriage is not growing due to the absence of intimacy, it will atrophy and finally die off or sour.
Please, couples should never allow anything to keep them apart from each other for so long. This is because if there is no time to create and build intimacy, your marriage may never survive. Some men/women have fallen into extramarital affairs as a result this.
In addition, when couples are living apart or not intimate with each other, their love will never grow and you know the implication of the absence of love in a marriage.
Remember what the BIBLE said about love in 1st Peter chapter 4:8 and above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”
In a marriage, once there is an absence of love, other negative issues will begin to take place such as lack of trust and the marriage of couples that don’t trust each other never lasts.
On this issue, I know of a woman who came to me with the problem that since they made her husband a manager of one company, that her husband has no more time again for her or the family as before as he used to come late at night and go out very early in the morning.
In response, I told her that her husband has a genuine reason, that she should help her husband to succeed as a manager. Being a virtuous woman, she uses food flax to go and buy food for her husband from where the husband used to go for launch.
She takes the food to the man in his office where she spends quality time with him. That helped to rekindle their love for each other as their intimacy was rebuilt. Also, the woman ended up even satisfying the husband $exually in the office.
To show that the husband appreciated what she did, he bought for her a car as not to be using public transport to bring his food in the office three times in a week.
As a man, you should understand that your wife needs your company and intimacy more than anything. So don’t deny her that by creating quality time to be with her. Without your physical presence, you should call her many times a day on the phone.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage by using the above recipes to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage. Shalom.