In our society today, some couples are enjoying their marriage to the fullest. That is, they are enjoying a successful and exciting marriage.
However, the marriages of some other couples are nothing to write home about.
The question therefore is, are you enjoying a rewarding, successful and exciting marriage or “is your marriage a failure”?.
In reality, from the time we started thinking about getting married, we all dream and desire to have a very successful and exciting marriage.
However, when we grew up and eventually got married, this successful and exciting marriage had eluded many.
Some couples who are not enjoying their marriage point accusing fingers on their spouse, accusing him or her of being responsible.
While some couples may think that the reason why their marriage is not successful and exciting is that they married the wrong person.
You may not have married the wrong person, but you may be the wrong person in that marriage.
The reason I said so is that the master key to enjoying a successful and exciting marriage is in your hands and not in the hands of your spouse.
By your actions and reaction, you are the one that determines whether you will enjoy your marriage or not.
We determine whether our marriage will be dragging, boring or exciting. It is when we have fully done our part, what we need to do in our marriage that we could ever complain about our spouses.
I wish to ask you again, to what extent are you enjoying your marriage and spouse? I am bold to say that no matter the current state of your marriage, even if you have to date a good marriage, note that a good marriage is not enough, there are still rooms for a better marriage.
I wish to inform you that the good marriage you may be enjoying now is not good enough, the best and most exciting marriage is yet to come.
While as, you can turn that marriage around even if the current state is nothing to write home about.
In this post, therefore, we shall be exploring the recipe for enjoying a successful marriage.
Recipes that could launch your marriage to the next level, the level that your marriage will be more successful and exciting
The first recipe is for couples to resolve to sink or swim with their spouses. To sink or swim with your spouse means that both couples must as a necessity resolve, be ready and willing to pay whatever the prize it takes to make it so.
The problem with some couples is that they are desirous of having a successful and exciting marriage, but they are not willing or ready to pay the necessary price. As a result, they are not bringing out the best in them.
Another recipe is that couples should focus their attention on satisfying and making their spouse happy and fulfilled in that marriage rather than focusing attention on you, on how to be happy and fulfilled yourself.
If you will focus attention on making your spouse happy and fulfilled more than your happiness, it will compel you to bring out the best in you, you will be ready and willing to pay any price to achieve it.
I must say that it is selfishness that makes couples to focus their attention on what will make them happy and fulfilled not minding how their spouses feel about it.
Once your spouse is happy and fulfilled in your marriage, you will see that you will as well be happy yourself while as you will never be happy if your spouse is not happy.
The third recipe is that couples should avoid focusing attention on the negatives of their spouses. Because you are not perfect yourself, you should choose to focus on the positives, on each other’s good qualities while you should overlook each other’s inadequacies.
However, couples should work on their inadequacies, how to be a better husband while she should work on herself, how to be a better wife. Remember, true love conquers all negatives.
The real problem with some couples is that they are quick to point out and focus their attention on the inadequacies of their spouse while failing to take note of their inadequacies.
You can never be happy and fulfilled in your marriage if you are focusing your attention on what your spouse is doing or not doing well and at the same time ignoring their shortcomings.
The way couples react to conflicts matters a lot if they are to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage. For couples to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, they must never keep malice against their spouses. It is a fact, as long as they have an offense against each other, they will never be happy and fulfilled in your marriage.
Personally, I learned something from Bishop David Oyedepo, according to him, he said that an older man of GOD told him before he got married that in marriage, there is up and down because of couples steps on each other’s toes all the time.
According to the Bishop, he answered, “If that is the case, that he will never have an up and down in marriage because he will never put out his toes as to allow his wife to step on them and will never step on his wife’s toe because he is not blind”.
That is to say, you will never have an offense if you don’t allow your spouse to step on your toes and try to avoid stepping on her toes as well. But assuming your spouse steps on your toes mistakenly, the way you react or manages it matters a lot.
If you will learn to use the word “I am sorry”, whenever there are conflicts, it will die a natural death.
Talking about conflicts, successful and exciting marriage does not devoid of conflicts because conflicts are a way your spouse is reacting to show that he or she doesn’t like certain issues.
When there is a conflict, learn to use the words “I am sorry”, it does wonders if you are sincere.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and try to explore avenues or recipes to make your marriage more successful and exciting. Shalom.
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