This year’s Valentine’s Day is about one day away, February, 14th. While as many lovers will use this festival of love to renew their love for each other. There are others who are still searching for true love but may end up being destroyed by what they thought was genuine or true love.
Of a truth, in our society today, many people are searching for true love, i.e., For persons that will shower them, with love. However, the majority, especially young people, doesn’t understand the meaning of true love. That is the reason many people will end up being destroyed by reason of what many will do in the name of love on Valentine’s Day.
Today, our society has elevated Valentine’s Day to mean a day men shower ladies with gifts and ladies pay back in return with an overdose of sex. But that is not how to show love, love is never a transaction or trade by barter. So, as you celebrate this year’s Valentine’s Day, be careful that you don’t regret what happens after the celebration.
It is obvious that after Valentine’s Day celebrations, many innocent young girls may get an unwanted pregnancy, and some may get STDS or even HIV, yet it is true love they are searching for. Even some young men always do funny things just to please or impress some ladies, “all in the name of love”.
It is unfortunate that in our society today when a man tells a lady that he loves her, the love he is referring to is Eros. This kind of love is nothing but erotic, passionate in nature as opposed to agape love.
As said, Eros is nothing but erotic or sexual/passionate love. This kind of love is not real, as it is often all about need. And it’s more about the person who’s feeling sexually attractive than it is about the person who is the focus of that love or the thing that is the focus of that love.
This kind is addicting and often causes great joy and great sorrow. In other words, this kind of love is never always good for us, as more hearts are broken after Valentine’s Day as the lives of some ladies are ruined after the celebration due to the non-fulfillment of this erotic love.
During Valentine’s Day, you regularly see men bringing gifts to ladies, claiming that they love them. However, be sure that such men may demand $ex afterward. As a lady, try to deny the man $ex and see if the man will still leave the gifts with you, that is, if you refuse to have $ex with him?
That will show you whether the man really loves you or if he is only interested in having $ex with you. On the other hand, a lady may claim to love a man, but if it happens that the man is not in a position to shower her with gifts but only brought her a flower or a valentine card. Often, you always hear such a lady ask the man if she will eat a flower or card?
On the other hand, the true love, God expects from us is Agape love. This kind of love is a model of the love of God for men and the love of man for God. It’s the love that is given, whether it’s returned. It’s love without any self-benefit or condition attached.
I remembered what happened some years ago while still on campus, as an undergraduate, where I witnessed what happened between one brother and a “sister”. That young man in that story was a graduate of Chemical Engineering.
Before the brother graduated, he showed interest in his sister, who was still an undergraduate. The said brother, GOD helped him, and he had secured a job with an oil company with a fantastic payout.
The said brother chooses to come and propose marriage to the sister on Valentine’s Day of that year. It happened that the brother came with only a flower but with an engagement ring inside his pocket. But coincidentally, one sugar daddy brought a tabletop fridge for the lady that Valentine’s Day.
Unfortunately, the lady in question said that it was not a flower that she will chop and decided to go out with the sugar daddy instead of the young man. That was how that lady lost out of what would have fetched the lady a wonderful marriage proposal.
It happened that the said sugar daddy never showed up again after that year’s Valentine’s Day celebration, as he decided to go for younger ladies. Also, there was this story about this young girl, only 17 years of age and still in secondary school.
It happened that the girl, for 2 years running, her girlfriend was always coming back with plenty of gifts on Valentine’s Day. The girl was envious of her friend and that her friend promised to help her to get a rich boyfriend that will spoil her on Valentine’s Day the following year.
I am sorry to report that the girl in question never recovered from what happened on Valentine’s Day of the next year. The reason was that the girl got infected with HIV from the man that she went out with the following year’s Valentine’s Day.
So as we celebrate this year’s lover’s day, be persuaded that you really love that person you claim to love. Also, be sure that that person has a genuine love for you as well, and not an infatuation, and is only interested in only having $ex with you. Be sure that you don’t get destroyed by the aftermath of what you will do on Valentine’s Day.
There is the saying that a word is enough for the wise. You should define for yourself what true love really means to you so that any person coming to say “I love you” really possesses that genuine agape love for you. Also, ensure that you have a genuine love for that person you claim to love. Shalom!.