In our society today, this is true; we all entered into a marriage relationship with the desire and high hopes of enjoying a successful and exciting marriage.
But while some are enjoying their marriage to the fullness, others are experiencing dullness and crises in their marriage.
Many who are not enjoying their marriage is because they lack the knowledge of the secrets that make for a successful and exciting marriage while some are not ready to pay the price of what it takes to enjoy successful and exciting marriage.
Once couples know and apply the secrets of what it takes to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, their marriages move to the next level.
Some time ago, I meet a woman in my wife’s office who said after I asked her about her husband referred to him as a beast and a monster.
You can trust me, I asked the woman, “As your husband was a beast and a monster, will you have appreciated that he had died last year or that he should die this week”?
After I asked her the above question, the woman looked at me and shouted: “no I don’t want my husband to die”. I am glad to point out that about 30 minutes I spent with that woman made a huge difference in her marriage because she implemented all that I told her.
To show that what I told her did a miracle in her marriage, she came back with her husband to see me and this time around, she said that she didn’t know and realize that her husband was loving and caring.
She acknowledged that my suggestions saved her marriage as her husband is now showing her love and care. Also, she said that her husband is now taking good care of her and her family, the responsibilities he earlier abandoned and left for her.
I wish to say that the few things I shared with the woman are the things I am sharing here. Even If the current state of your marriage is not good, you can positively turn it around like that woman if you wish by your readiness and willingness to implement what I am sharing in this post.
First and foremost, if you wish to have a successful and exciting marriage, the first thing you must necessarily do is to change the wrong mindset you have about your spouse and marriage.
This is a secret I wish to point out that what you see and experience in your marriage is determined or a function of what you Paint and constantly build in your subconsciousness.
This is a fact; some men see and call their wives witch while some women call their husbands as beast and a monster. As said, what some fail to understand is that what you constantly plant and imagine in your subconsciousness tends to become a reality.
As long as you have a wrong mindset about your spouse you can never enjoy him/her or your marriage. Because you are having a wrong mindset, and a wrong mental picture of your spouse that and is why he/she may never do things that will please you.
As the case with that woman I cited her story above, all I did was to erase the wrong mental image or picture she had about her husband and in its place painted and planted a mental image of a lovely and caring husband.
After painting the image of a loving and caring husband in her sub-consciousness, I told her she should change her attitude as to correspond to that image she was now carrying about her husband.
In other words, you are the one who created what your spouse has become. Because you had created the image of a monster or a witch, consciously you built an attitude to relate with a monster or a witch.
So if consciously you change your attitude to correspond with the positive image of a loving and caring spouse, you will see that your spouse will not even know when he/she change himself or herself to be loving and caring.
The secret is that whatever qualities you desire to see in your spouse, paint that image or picture of that person in your subconsciousness and change your attitude and begin to relate to your spouse as if he/she is already that man or woman.
All that I am saying is that it is your actions and reactions that made your spouse who he/she is. So, through your actions and reactions, you can as well change him/her to be the man/woman you want him to be.
This goes to justify what Bishop Oyedepo used to say humorously. According to the Bishop, he said that they told him before he got married that one of the reasons that there are crises in marriage is because of couples’ steps on each other’s toes all the time.
Oyedepo said that he responded by saying that if that is the case, that he will never have crises in his marriage because he will never put out his toes to allow his wife to step on them. As well, he will be so conscious that he will never step on the toes of his wife.
Today, if you look at the marriage of the Bishop, you will observe that they are having the best of time in their marriage. I, I learned that from the Bishop in that I refuse to bring out my toes as not to allow my wife to step on them. As well I am enjoying the best of time in my marriage.
So if you will build that attitude of never to do anything that will offend your spouse and as well refuse to take offense on what your spouse does, you will see that your marriage will never have crises.
We will continue our discourse next in part two, so until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and avoid having a wrong image or picture of your spouse.
Rather, create and plant a positive image of your spouse in your subconsciousness and you will see that your marriage will be successful and exciting. Shalom.