While we were growing up, we all have the dream of having a very successful and exciting marriage. But when we grew up and eventually got married, the successful and exciting marriage we dreamed of eluded many.
Some couples who are not enjoying their marriage point accusing fingers on their spouse, accusing him or her of being responsible.
While some may think that the reason why their marriage is not successful and exciting is because they married a wrong person.
You may not have married the wrong person, but you may be the wrong person in your marriage. The reason I said so is because the master key to enjoying a successful and exciting marriage is in your hands and not in the hands of your spouse.
By your actions and reaction, you are the one that determines whether you will enjoy your marriage or not. You determine whether your marriage will be dragging, boring or exciting.
It is when you have fully done your own part, what you need to do in your marriage that you could ever complain about your spouse.
Again may I ask, is your marriage a success? To what extent are you enjoying your marriage and spouse? I am bold to tell you that even if you are having todate a good marriage, that good marriage is not enough, there are still rooms for a better marriage.
I wish to inform you that the better marriage you are enjoying now is not enough, the best and more exciting marriage is yet to come if you will diligent to implement the secret s above.
That is to say, you should never stop, but rather you should go ahead to explore more avenues to move your marriage to the next level, the level that your marriage will be more successful and exciting.
I am enjoying the best of my marriage today because I know better and implementing the secrets and principles that make for a glorious and exciting marriage.
I went somewhere and on my way back decided to branch to my wife’s office. When I arrived at her office, there were people she was attending to in her office. One or two of them know me while the rest did not know me.
My wife when she saw me introduce me to them, “meet my husband”. One of the people in her office looked at me and congratulated me that I married a wonderful wife.
One of the people who knew me in that office interrupted that it is my wife who should thank her GOD for giving her a wonderful husband. I told them that I thank GOD that my wife is “a gift from GOD”.
Later while still in her office, somebody came to her office just to see me. According to her, she overheard many wonderful things they were saying about me and my wife that she decided to come and see me while I am still in my wife’s office.
In other words, it is our actions and reactions that either brings out the best out of your spouses or make your spouses what he or she is.
That is the reason why I say, “your marriage is good, exciting or bad as you make it”. Today, there are still rooms; you can choose to make your marriage more rewarding and exciting.
To make your marriage more rewarding and exciting, you must as a necessity resolve and be ready as well as willing to pay the prize to make it so. The problem with some couple is that they are desirous of having a successful and an exciting marriage, but they are not willing or ready to pay the necessary prize.
To enjoy a successful and an exciting marriage, you should focus attention on satisfying and making your spouse happy and fulfilled in your marriage rather than on yourselves, on how to be happy and fulfilled yourself.
If you will focus attention on making your spouse be happy and fulfilled more than your own happiness, it will compel you to pay any prize to achieve it.
I must say, it is our own selfishness that makes us focus our attention on what will make us happy and fulfilled not minding how our spouse feels.
Once your spouse is happy and fulfilled in your marriage, you will see that you will as well be happy yourself while as you will never be happy if your spouse is not happy.
Secondly, you should not focus on the negatives: Because you are not perfect yourself, you should choose to focus on the positives, on one another.s good qualities while you should overlook each other’s inadequacies.
You should work on your inadequacies, how to be a better husband while she should work on herself, how to be a better wife.
The real problem with some couples is that they are quick to point out and focus their attention on the inadequacies of their spouse while failing to take note of their own inadequacies.
You can never be happy and fulfilled in your marriage if you are focusing your attention on what your spouse is not doing well or is doing that are not acceptable.
Finally, the way you react to conflicts matters a lot if you are to enjoy an exciting marriage. For you to enjoy a successful and exciting marriage, you must never have a malice against your spouse.
It is a fact, as long as you have an offense against each other, you will never be happy and fulfilled in your marriage.
In my own marriage, I learned something from Bishop David Oyedepo, according to him, he said that another man of GOD told him before he got married that marriage is up and down because couples steps on each other’s toes all the time.
He answered, “if that is the case, he will never have an up and down marriage because he will never put out his toes as to allow his wife to step on them”.
That is to say, you will never have an offense if you don’t allow your spouse to step on your toes and try to avoid stepping on each other’s toes.
But assuming your spouse steps on your toes mistakenly, the way you react or manages it matters a lot. If you will learn to use the word “I am sorry”, whatever conflicts will die a natural death.
Talking about conflicts, successful and exciting marriage does not devoid of conflicts because conflicts is a way your spouse is reacting to show that he or she doesn’t like certain issues.
When there is a conflict, learn to use the words “I am sorry”, it does wonders if you are sincere.
Until I come your way again, stay committed to your marriage and try to explore avenues to make your marriage more successful and exciting. Shalom.
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