We are still discussing the problems of spiritual incompatibility in marriages and the possible solutions thereof. The series started in part one. I hope you have read part one as this is the continuation. Please, GO HERE to ensure that you read part one for a better understanding.
Also, spiritual incompatibility arises when two people of two different religions decided to get married or two people of one religion got married but along the line in their marriage, one of the partners got converted to another religion.
In another development, two people of the same Christian faith and church may get married in a church but along the line, one of the partners will decide to switch to another church while the other partner may refuses to switch church with him or her.
As a marriage counselor, the above are the major cause of spiritual incompatibility among couples I have handled. If you are still single, the solution I used to offer is that you should be convinced and persuaded about the person you wish to marry.
That is to say, you should not say that you don’t know that your partner is like that. This is the reason you often hear, “if I have known that he or she is like that, i won’t have married him or her”. It equally goes to confirm what Reverend Professor Chinedu Neboh told us years ago in one marriage similar during my university days.
According to the Reverend Professor, he said that “he/she who decides to marry the devil’s son or daughter should equally be prepared to host his father-in-law – the devil”.
In other words, if you decide to marry a devil’s son or daughter, you should as well never complain if your father-in-law – the devil pays you a visit in your home.
Assuming that one of the partners got converted after their marriage, in this situation, the onus lies on the women. As a woman, you should realize that your husband is the head of the marriage and should decide what should be done. It is left for you to join him to the new church as long as it is a living church.
However, in deciding, the man should never force the woman to join him but should use diplomacy to woo and convince the wife. The same applies to a woman, she should not expect her husband to follow her sheepishly without her convincing him.
Furthermore, Apostle Paul gave us an appropriate counsel in 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 which reads, “But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
And a woman who has a husband, who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
Above all, I don’t pray that you will have a spiritual incompatibility in your marriage, but if you happen to get involved, the number one solution is to handle the situation in prayers because prayers changes a lot of things.
The end of part two; we will continue our discourse in part three next. Please keep a date with us next. Shalom!. Please, GO AHEAD to read part 3 for your delight.
