In part one and two of the series, which talked about the issue of spiritual incompatibility in marriages? I strongly believe that you have read that part one and two. If not, GO HERE to read part one.
As said, we looked at spiritual incompatibility in marriages and in this segment; we shall be looking at another kind of marriage incompatibility. The next we shall look at is age incompatibility in marriages.
Age incompatibility in marriages arises out of the marriage of two individuals with great gap or very wide gaps in age differences between husbands and wives.
One thing with age incompatibility in marriages is that most at times, it is what is responsible for social incompatibility and as well as $exual incompatibility in marriages.
The truth of the matter is that our societies today have not defined what should be the age difference between man and woman in marriage marriages.
This is because some ladies prefer to get married to older men while some ladies prefer men not more than ten to fifteen years gap in age.
In another development, there are men who prefer to get married to women who are far ahead of them in age while some men prefer to marry women that are very younger in age to them or of the same age.
Whatever is the case of your decision to marry a man or woman who has great gap in age differences, such men or women must be convinced of what they are getting into.
I said this because without been convinced and persuaded, age incompatibility will surely trigger off other issues that may crash such marriages.
In reality, I usually counsel singles that desire to marry that in order to ensure that their marriages succeeds, they must marry persons they should be proud of, persons they should be proud to introduce as their husbands or wives.
I said this because there was a folly case I know, a real life situation. In that case, there was a man of about 60 years of age who checked into a hotel with his legal wife of about 17 years.
The management of that hotel called police saying that there was a man in that hotel involved in child abuse. It happened that one of the police men that came to arrest the man knew the man very well and had even attended the man’s marriage ceremony.
There was another case, which involved a lady, the lady was 21 years while her husband was about 65 years. It happened that in that occasion, the MC mistakenly introduced the man, saying that the man came with one of his granddaughter not knowing that the lady was his legal wife.
The man got offended and left the occasion in anger and upon reaching home, the lady said that she is calling it a quit from that marriage. It was then that the eyes of the lady got opened, and she realized that she was married to a man that was old to be her grandfather.
Another young man was deeply offended when one man told him in an occasion that he had seen his grandmother, referring to his legal wife who was very much ahead of him in age.
Whatever is the case, if you feel that you will not be proud to introduce a woman or a man as your husband or wife, please don’t marry him or her unless you are ready to endure the problem of age incompatibility.
Marriages with age incompatibility, the following must be in place to avoid the consequences of marriage failure. The first is that if you are an older man that got married to a very younger lady, you must be ready to be satisfying the lady $exually or the lady will seek for $exual satisfaction outside there by allowing infidelity in that marriage.
As a man, will you withstand sharing your wife with other younger men? If not, the marriage is bound to fail. The same applies to old women that got married to younger men, they must be ready to be satisfying the men $exually all the time they demand for $ex or they will seek for satisfaction elsewhere.
Moreover, one thing with age incompatibility in marriages is that inferiority complex comes to play as the older partners seldom respect the younger partners.
The younger partners as well suffers the problem of inferiority complex. As a result, there will surely be crises that could lead to marriage failure.
The solution is to be convinced and persuaded or accepts to sink or swim with the person you are getting married to. You should be proud of him or her and as well as be ready to show him or her some respect that he or she deserves.
Moreover, they must close their eyes against other younger men and women and should never be comparing their wives or husbands with other men and women.
In closing, I am bold to say that there are men and women whose partners are very much ahead of them in age. Such couples never allowed age incompatibility to occur in their marriages.
Such couples are living happily and relating very well in their marriages. What I am saying is not that it is the best, as other factors have to come to play.
We shall continue our discourse in the next segment 9or in part four. So keep a date with us next. Shalom! PLEASE, PART 4 IS READY GO HERE TO READ IT.
