Please try and read part three before reading this part 4. In parts one to three of our discourse previously, we looked at spiritual and age incompatibility in marriages. In this segment, we shall be looking at incompatibility in academic qualifications in marriages.
Most a time, it is the incompatibility in academic qualifications in marriages that leads to social incompatibility. Incompatibility in education or academic qualification occurs when there is a great gap in academic qualifications of partners in marriage relationships.
For instance, a man with a PhD but goes to marry a lady who attended only secondary school or a woman who has her Master’s degree but goes ahead to marry a quack illiterate as a husband.
This does often happen in our society and in reality. Solution to avoid crises in the marriage as a result of incompatibility in education or academic qualification is that the partner that is deficient academically must be ready to improve him or herself academically.
Pastor E.A Adeboye once shared a story of a single lady, a master degree holder and was the manager in a company. One day, while the woman was in her office, the Holy Spirit told her to look at the window of her office and behold her husband.
The lady got up and looked at her window and lo and behold the person she saw was the gate man of that company who incidentally was only a secondary school certificate holder. The lady rebuked that Spirit behind the voice.
However, the voice persisted and the lady finally accepted. She called the man to her office and inquired if the man has any message for her?
It was then that the man opened up that the Holy Spirit has been impressing on him that she was his future wife, but she lacks the boldness to tell her.
According to the man, the reason he resisted the voice was because of the gap in academics between them. The lady informed him that she has been getting similar messages herself.
The lady inquired if the man is ready to go back to school which he accepted. To cut the long story short is that they got married and the lady asked him to resign, and she enrolled him in a school to further his education.
The wife sponsored him and within few years, the man got his master’s degree. If they had gotten married and the man failed to further his education, the marriage would not have worked out as there would have been crises as a result of incompatibility in academics in that marriage.
Moreover, if the man has not improved himself academically, inferiority complex would have been the order of the day and the wife would have been exhibiting superiority complex which may have caused social incompatibility in that marriage.
What I am saying is that any marriage in which there is academic incompatibility, the solution lies in adjustment by couples in such family as to allow the partner deficient to improve him or herself academically.
Moreover, the partner concerned must be willing and ready to sacrifice in going back to school to improve him or herself academically.
However, there are known heartbreaking incidents that occurred in marriage that tried to solve the issue of academic incompatibility. For instance, there was a man I know, he had his master’s degree and working with the state civil service in one of the states in Nigeria.
The said man got married to one village girl that just finished her secondary education. After some time in their marriage, the man observed that the lady was having inferiority complex toward him.
The man decided to enroll her to further her education. He enrolled her to do OND in a polytechnic and after her OND; he got her a direct entry admission into the university.
It happened that after the lady completed her university education and while in her one-year youth service, she fell in love with another man working in a bank.
Do you know that the said lady divorced the man that sent her to school and married the banker? Please don’t allow such an incident to happen to you.
There was another case of a Ghanaian lady, she got married to a Ghanaian man and brought the man to London. She was working while sponsoring the man to school.
After the man graduated, he returned to Ghana. By the time his wife joined him in Ghana from London, the man has married another woman as a wife in Ghana. This story was shared by Apostle Jones Dada Boateng of Deliverance Outreach Ministry , London.
Couples with academics incompatibility in marriages and wish to sponsor their partners to further their education must be convinced and persuaded that they really love each other.
Nevertheless, to abandon the man or woman that sponsored you to further your education for another man or woman is wickedness of the highest order which God will judge you if you do that.
End of part four, please keep a date with us as we will continue our discourse in part 5 next. Shalom!